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sallymarie 
I have had the worst AF ever. I can't hardly move at all. I called my doctor last week and I told her we wanted to do another FET. Well yesterday I was hurting so bad. I called and asked my sister what to do and she told me to have the surgery. She said my body needed to rest from all the medicine I had been taking for two and a half years. That made sense so DH and I talked about it and I said well you know... I'll probably be in surgery for an hour and maybe stay overnight, no big deal........well.....my RE called me back today and told me that we would plan to do my surgery next Wednesday. Then....... she said that the surgery would probably take about 3 to 4 hours and I would probably have to stay in the hospital until Saturday. That has me so freaked out. She said she would make a 6 inch incission across my belly and she would have to have another surgeon present because the endo is wrapped around my bowels. She said I wouldn't be pain free and she would try to save my ovaries but she don't know until she gets in there. I am so afraid. I think my husband is getting stressed out over all this surgery and infertility stuff. My life seems to be falling apart. I just don't know what to do. I feel like everyone has turned away. I know I've done bad things in my life but to suffer through all of this?
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You are going through something awful! AF is bad enough and for you to have it even worse is just salt in the wound. I'm so sorry this is going this way for you. Infertility affects EVERYTHING in your life including the relationship with your best friend, your husband. I am so glad your RE is doing the surgery and not an OB/GYN so she really knows how important having a baby is to you. Take care and good luck!
CarrieAnn
I hope you get some answers and help. Please ensure there is a gastroenterologist performing the bowel surgery with the gyn, as they are not trained always to do bowels surgery and could result in colostomy bags etc. I have endo bowel and they refused to perform surgery due to risk of perforating the bowel.
Sending you lots of support - I know how you feel!
utah31
I am sorry you are dealing with so much. I would think what you are going through is painful for you everyday. Look at it this way. In about 2 weeks you will be pain free or close to it for probably the first time in a long time. The good news is even though you will have pain you will also have pain meds to help you deal with it. It sounds like something you will have to do at some point no matter what. I wish you the best and am sorry it is so hard. Life is really rotten sometimes.
frustrated007
It will all turn out ok. My Re was able to save my ovary when they did they surgery. I don't think mine is quite as severe as yours, no bowel involvment. You are doing the right thing for your body. Like my RE told me somehow, and he's not quite sure how, but the theory is that endo causes embryos to not be able to adhere to the lining in your uterus. So reducing it even alittle will up your chances of getting pregnant.
suzyhopes
I'm so sorry you're going through so much--I hope everything turns out well. Good luck to you.
I really think you're doing what needs to be done.
minik
I am so sorry. You are not to blame for any of this. I too had mine wrapped around my bowels. You will get through this and you will move on. I am really worried about them just removing your ovaries with out a second opinion. You may want to stipulate that if they feel they need to remove them, not to b/c you want a second opinion. They wanted to remove all my stuff at 19 years old. I am glad I said no or there would never be a chance. Think about it, okay?
Lioness816
Oh, honey, you did nothing to deserve this - please try not to think that. God is with you, let him carry you through this - he is really good at it! You are in my prayers.
AnneMarie