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TomSinTn 
2:42pm, November 6, 2009
* An inspirational article by HPLANDER *
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" First of all if he were as vulnerable as you appear to be I would try to make him comfortable and watch his body language. If I made him too anxious I would ask if he would prefer a male counselor.
If He thought I could help him I would ask him to be candid with me and not worry that he will shock or offend me. People's reactions to trauma are there own. I would listen. I wouldn't interrupt or belittle. Just talking about the abuse would be very difficult for the little boy and I would not want him to feel any more self-conscious than he was. After he told me I would let him know that I believed him and that I was proud of how he was brave enough to tell me about his pain. I would also assure him (as best I could) that my off is a safe place and that nothing like that would ever happen there.
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I am still inspired anytime I read this.
What a wonderful mental picture.
Tom S. in Tn./ 9-7-08
Comments
I only tell the truth. I so wish a counselor would have said this to you. You deserved to be respected and accepted. I hope throughout our friendship that their will be other times I inspire you.
hplander
It really is awesome, hplander. I'd like to add this: When the boy finally experiences all the rage that comes flooding out. All the fear and anger. I would allow him to take it out on me and then I'd let him know he was perfectly normal for doing so. Rage is a symptom of sexual abuse.
Samadian
What a booboo! I never put the writers name on this.
Sorry Joyce, and call the attorney back, I did not intend to plagiarize ! :-o
TomSinTn