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It has been 3 weeks since we took our daughter to the residential treatment center, We have our good days and bad. As much as I miss her and wish she were here,I have come to realize that since we have placed her just how much she did control this house. or I should say her behaviors, I know she is in the right place and she is getting the help she needs to be abel to learn how to deal with her moods. We will also be doing family therapy and will learn how to help her and live with her in a much better healthier way. The place she is at says she is doing well she is struggling and that will come as theyget more into her therapy and touch o nthings that she has never learned how to deal with. she will have new emotions that she will learning how to live with, her honeymoon phase as they call it is over, so they are seeing issues that we have seen and lived with for a very very long time, and has sad as that is and I hurt for her I understand for them to be able to treat her and get her the right kind of therapy they need to see that, the last week she has been horribly mean when I talk to her on the phone and has even hung up on me, twice. but that is all part of it, she needs to mad and she is mad at me, or I should say her anger is directed at me,, anyway.. hopefully in the next two weeks she will start coming down off her anger and mellowing out, the therapist says that she is doing awesome on therapy and working very hard and doing a lot of excercises to help cope, and in that place you use your coping skills all day long,,otherewise you will not get anywhere. so as hard as it was and it was horrid and heartbreaking. I know she is going to be okay.,.
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I am asking for prayers for our daughter, today we took her to a treatment center,. even though it is a nice one and the people were great, that is a HELL I would not want my worse enemy to go through,for so long we have done everything possible to get her the right kind of help and help her, and we just came to the end and said we need more, we love her and I almost could not doit today, but we knew she needed to be there, it is about her not us., so please everyone out there in DS land please keep her in your prayers that she can heal and come home soon, her name is Jill
thanks so much,
thanks so much,
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jillybug's Mom:
I just wanted to give you kudos for your strength. I know it was a hard decision for you and your family.
I used to work in a group home that treated children with oppositional defiant disorder. I joined this group because I thought that I might be an aid to some of the people on there. I have seen that you have been giving advise to a lot of people, and it has been great advice.
I don't know if this helps, but in my experience (almost 5 years), the children are always angry with their parents initially. She uses her anger as a way to manipulate you and make you feel bad. The fact that she is angry with you and she is hanging up on you is a good thing. It means that she is ticked about being there and she wants to go home. Have you thought about Multisystemic Family Therapy (MST) for when she is ready to come home? I recommend it to all of the families that I work with. It can seem invasive, but the success rate is over 90%.
If you have any questions or anything, please don't hesitate to ask.
Pearls14