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AnnieEm 
8:46am, July 18, 2009
Hi! to all. Hope that your day goes well.
I have plans today and have to get off here soon.
My venting problem is my Dad.
Praising my nephew, like he is made of gold.
Makes me think he could care less about my sons.
Nephew is playing football for his school (kicker). Where was he when both of my boys were playing baseball and football???
I think he made one game- He was living up the street at the time.
I shouldn't be upset but I am.
My boys are good and have a great attitude most times.
With the Holidays coming they both asked me what to bring on Thanksgiving, I told them nothing I have all I need. I invited my parents up, probably won't show.
Who knows.
Thanks for reading this.
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Hugs Annie! Maybe now that time has passed and he's getting older he realises how much he's missed in his granchildren's lives and is trying to be more supportive and involved? Too late to make much a difference to your sons' but we all have regrets and praising your nephew may be one way he's trying to atone for his failings in the past. You know that cat Stevens' song about the father who realises too late his son wants little to do with him because he couldn't be bothered to spend time with him as the boy was growing up? I'd bet the feelings of that song echo for your father when he looks at your boys.
You're allowed to feel whatever you want and if it upsets you that's fine. He did your boys wrong, why wouldn't you be upset about that, even if he's trying to do better now? Coming to grips with the pain of his earlier rejection of your children is your only task, not worrying over whether you should or shouldn't feel this way.
You obviously raised your sons to be caring and repectful without much of your father's input. So while he's playing catch-up with his guilt, you get to enjoy the kind of relationship he wishes he had, and may not fully develop with your nephew.
Maybe your parents will show up and maybe they won't. That you'll leave the door open to them, and have invited them despite them treating your family differently than they do your siblings shows you jhave a big beautiful heart. Your boys are lucky to have such a mom!
hugs to you today,
~b.
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Thanks B.!!!!
I appreciate what you said and I know you are right.
I just need to let go.
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