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LeannaB 
8:07pm, October 28, 2008
For all of my DS friends who have sat and read my earlier posts about my watering rights neighbors whor efused to allow me to water my own flower garden, I saw something about 20 minutes ago that I felt I needed to share with you.
I saw a moving van,. and inquired to another neighbor. It seems they complained to management about having to share a water fawcett with me, and the manager said if you do not want to share, then move.
Let's just pray and hope I get better neighbors to move in there, and who do not mind sharing a simple little water fawcett!
Had a person call me yesterday to request I help with a poltiical problem where they work. I, of course said yes - and if she wanted to sue, I'd be there for her, etc. A man we both knew had suggested she call me, but guess what? Last night late he called me to "instruct" me on how to handle it.
Yep, it seems he did not want to take any political risks to help out this woman friend of his, but wanted me to assume all the political risks, time, energy, stress, etc.
I asked him just what made him think that I did not know how to handle things poltically? I then did then the dumbest thing of letting him know I had served on more committees than he could ever fathom, and that when Donna Shallala was in Pres. Clinton's cabinet, she appointed me to a national committee, and asked him why she had not appointed him.....shouldn't have ever gotten so dang personal, etc. - but I was just so mad at his male chauvenism. This was a really cheap shot on my part, and I truly regret having done it.
I was also kind of furious that he would call me a friend, but then be so disrespectful of my health, energy, etc.
I do not know why I am such a dang good advocate for others - can be cool and extremely analytical to find the best solution, but when I personally am insulted, my responses end up being knee-jerk emotional and defensive....It is as if my brain and years of experience as an advocate just go down stream.
Any friends got any suggestions of a solution so that I can be rational and calm when advocating and defending myself. I end up being ashamed of the emotional responses I give in defending myself - didn't used to be this way, but the last 25 years have experienced so much that my brain is just so dang short-fused.
I really sincerely would like suggestions to my dilemna. I do not want to get buried one of these days, just due to my emotional response at protecting myself from these onsalughts...know what I mean? Thanks, Leanna
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when faced with a mean personal comment made. stop and take 3 deep breaths before you speak. and try to think of taking the higher road! easier said than done, but try. i used to be in sales where i had to do this, it doesn`t work for me anymore, i do the knee jerk retort know.
hunterD
Thanks Dave - You are a true blue friend, even though you did not come to Eugene's Slug Queen Coronation with me (giggles). Unfortunately, I must admit, and sure as heck not proud of admitting this, if I take a couple days to think about the siutation, I am even more round up, and like a fire cracker ready to explode. I just got to get to the point where I can still think and react rationally. I would detest if this is part of the MS Brain PHenomena? EEE gads, no -- it just absolutely can's be....got to find a solution for my temper when it comes to all things personal.
LeannaB
I thought about this for a couple days, and decided I have nothing to be ashamed of. He was questioning my ability as a professional woman to handle this, and he did want to take credit for any outcome by being the man behind the scene. He had no right to question my professional judgement, as I am the one with the credentials. If he had tried to handle it, it would have been a farce, not because he is a man, but because of his lack of experience. He was a male chauvenist, and it has been many years since I have seen one so sneekily peering out from the closet.
LeannaB
Well, Leanna, first I want to apologize for not getting over to read your journal until today, shame on me, I must confess that I have been remiss in watching over my friends, simply because I am punching at my keys furiously about nothing but politics these days -- I am impossibly crazy with it these days -- it is a sickness, I know, and I hope my friends will forgive me and remember that it will all be over in 8 weeks!
I am delighted about the possible move of your neighbors and will hope & pray that you get your wish, let me see if I can corral that pesky fairy godmother to help make it happen!
Your comment about how you can be so cool when you are advocating for other people, but yet when responding on your own behalf, tend to respond more emotionally, I'll say one thing: NORMAL! I figured out a long time ago that THAT is why I can't ever be a politician, because I can't be cold-blooded when being criticized. I have no doubt that you have every reason to respond to him that way. It sounds as if his intention was to try to manipulate everything from behind the scenes, and like you said, take none of the risk. So you will have to update us on how things play out.
Anyway, I hope everything else is good for you, any news on the medical front, i.e., new doc, sleep study, etc? LV*M
LilMargie
I am praying for you a better and more understanding neighbor. I applaud the manager for sticking to what was the right thing to do.
It is hard to be thick skinned when you are soft hearted. It is hard to stand up for oneself. I am proud to have you as a friend and I know that you are capable and a very intelligent information hound. I hope you know that one man's opinion doesn't make a flea leave the dog. We love ya and that should count for something!
bigouie