I lost my husband at the age of 45 just a few days before Christmas in 2007. He was in a fatal car accident. We have a daughter and son who were 19 and 16 at the time. I am trying to move forward knowing that I can never go back. I will carry the empty feeling and ache in my heart forever. We spent 27 years together (22 of which were married) now I just keep trying to find my purpose and a new direction in life without him.
I lost my husband at the age of 45 just a few days before Christmas in 2007. He was in a fatal car accident. We have a daughter and son who were 19 and 16 at the time. I am trying to move forward knowing that I can never go back. I will carry the empty feeling and ache in my heart forever. We spent 27 years together (22 of which were married) now I just keep trying to find my purpose and a new direction in life without him.
I love spending time outside, camping, boating, gardening, photography and scrapbooking, bicycle riding when I have the time. Spending time with my daughter and son. I enjoy many types of music my favorites being Jazz, Country Music, Classic Rock.
I love spending time outside, camping, boating, gardening, photography and scrapbooking, bicycle riding
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Lance,
My heart breaks for our kids, the things that you are not here for and I can't do anything to take the deep pain away.
I …
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Hi Denise,
For some reason I'm having trouble sending, so I hope you get this one.
Thank-you for the b-day wishes, it's was thoughtful of you, and I love to hear from you.
Talk to you later,
Wayne
Hi Denise,
I just sent you an e-mail then noticed you had sent me a hug! Wow, you live in Palm Springs, so that is REALLY CLOSE. Would love to chat on the phone sometime (if you want) or even get together. Sad as it is, we have lots in common with losing husbands the same age and having kids still to raise when they died. I'm heading out of town Thursday night and won't be back until Dec. 2nd but will be checking e-mails, so write back. All the best. Tami
Thanks, Denise, I am sore and a bit shaky driving - I know that's to be expected. I wish my life would be a little less exciting sometimes... I'm trying to do a lot of positive self-talk and using my usual coping mechanisms (go for a walk, count my blessings, etc.), but that doesn't always work. Everyone tells me to pamper myself right now - I wish I had the kind of life where that was even remotely possible! And the only person who would happily do that for me is 4,500 miles away! Sigh... I'll be all right, it's just going to take some effort, and after the last 2 years I just don't always have the wherewithal. But I keep trying... I debated whether to tell my DS friends about the accident - I didn't want to bring up bad memories for you and the others that had that kind of loss, but Mark took that decision out of my hands, and I REALLY appreciated the love I got from my DS family. I hope I didn't cause you and the others any additional pain. We've all had enough these past couple of years. Hope you're holding up okay. Much Love and Hugs, Martha
Thanks, Denise, for all of your positive comments. Guess I am just getting the "grip" of this new reality. It sure is a difficult adjustment. Thinking of you and hoping that we will get together soon. Just getting ready for a big holiday gathering for Thanksgiving. After that sounds good. Hugs and love to you, Barbara
Giant hugs Denise from OKC!! I pray that you feel the peace of the Lord's arms surrounding you and your family this Thanksgiving and Christmas....and that you can at least at times visiualize Lance in Heaven next to our Lord smiling down upon the family that he loved sooooo much. Cindi
I am 46 and just lost my husband of almost 23 years on Dec. 22, 2007 in a tragic auto accident. We have two children a daughter 19 and son who just turned 16 on Dec.7, 2007. Our lives have been one large blur since the accident. We are just trying to cope.
I just lost my husband of almost 23 years on Dec. 22, 2007 in an automobile accident. It was so sudden and very difficult to process. A lot of guilt set in on the should have done, could have done, should have said. No chance to say good-bye. We have a daughter 19 and a son 16. It has been a very difficult journey. Trying to stay strong for the kids.
My husband died in an auto accident a year ago this past Dec. His autopsy listed under section III. Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy. I am wondering if this could have played a part in his accident.
