Wow I can't believe it has been so long
July 30, 2009 11:57pm
I can't believe I haven't been on here for a long time since the winter holidays. A lot has changed. Still not divorced which sucks but …
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maxtomsmom
7:16pm, August 5, 2008
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About Me
maxtomsmom
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About Me
I am a mom of two wonderful, loving and beautiful boys ages 4 and 7. They inspire me to be strong, to be my best each day and to love despite the recent hell I'm living through. My STBX told me he's having an affair after just shy of 10 years of marriage. My STBX decided to tell me that it was over on our Disney trip with our kids. Great guy, huh! Divorce proceedings are underway!
I am a mom of two wonderful, loving and beautiful boys ages 4 and 7. They inspire me to be strong, to be my best each day and to love despite the recent hell I'm living through. My STBX told me he's having an affair after just shy of 10 years of marriage. My STBX decided to tell me that it was over on our Disney trip with our kids. Great guy, huh! Divorce proceedings are underway!
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Going to the theater, listening to music, gardening, reading, exercising, spending time with my kids, traveling and retail therapy. My dream is to shop in Paris and in Rome and not worry about the size or cost all in one trip. I said it was a dream.
Going to the theater, listening to music, gardening, reading, exercising, spending time with my kids,
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Happy New Year!
January 2, 2009 3:31pm
Wow! It seems like such a long time since I've been here. I'm doing well and keeping busy. Hope everyone's new year is going much …
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happy new year!! the best thing of 2008 was getting to know U... Thanks for being an ear and shoulder to lean on...
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Close Infidelity
It's been a typical roller coaster since I have learned about my H affair. He's been back and forth wanting to work it out. He is so lost and confused, but continues to stay in a relationship with her, therefore, I am out. I deserve better than him. He is a Fucktard and now I know I want a divorce more than anything in my life. I am hoping to have it quickly and amicably for our children's and my sakes.
Treatments
- Couples Counseling Not Working
- He hated our therapist. I use her now alone. He is suppose to be getting his own.
- Divorce Working / Worked
- Hopefully it will be all over soon! Can't come soon enough.
- Forgiveness Too Soon to Tell
- No reason to forgive him. I can go on with my life without him. He is Jackie Fortin's problem now. I do not want to be friends with him, therefore, I see no reason forgiveness is necessary.
- Reading Working / Worked
- Reading After the Affair by Janis Springs. It's helping me cope and understand. Reading different websites.
- Zoloft Working / Worked
- Its ok I guess its just taking the edge off.
Close ADHD / ADD
My soon to be 7 year old was just diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. He is an extremely bright and curious child who academically does well despite his impulsivenes and is easily distracted. I know he will be something great one day, but it is a struggle just to get his socks on!
Treatments
- Behavior Management Working / Worked
- We use one at home and in school. He loves to get the rewards. If he does not do a chore or is giving me a really hard time I dock his pay which he really hates. He loses 5 cents for every article of clothing I have to pick up or if I have to feed the dog. He loses 10 cents and has to pay his brother if he hits him. This is working out well. He loves his allowance.
Open Breakups & Divorce
Definitely getting a divorce and can't wait to sign the final papers. He is such a fucktard and they deserve each other. I am better off without him and his selfish ways has taught me how to be stronger. I will find my true soul mate.
Treatments
- Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
- Friends and family also think he is a fucktard. He is emotionally abusive and is extremely narcissistic. Everyone I know on my end who knows the whole story thinks he is a selfish bastard. Not one person truly supported me when I was trying all my might to make it work. What does that say about him?
- Talking Working / Worked
- Family and friends have been very helpful and patient. Some said they will stop talking to me if I ever take him back. Not a chance!
- Time Too Soon to Tell
- This is all I can do at this point - give it time.
