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miahugsandprayers 
I had the day from hell yesterday and so glad its over although I am still suffering the after effects and still a bit weepy.
I wenr to my daughters yesterday to have the baby while she cought up with her housework,that was fine.The day before my grandaughter brought her washing to me as usual for me to wash for her, no problem with that I don,t mind at all.While I was at my daughters Aliegha text me and I told her I would be a bit later than planed,but would be home soon.She relpyed with a lot of attitude telling me why did I not leave my key for her if I know I was not getting home on time.To that I replyed that she has to cut me some slack as things don,t always go the way its meant to and I will be home soon.To that another text from her telling me how out of order I am and I am wasting her time who do I think I am.Well my blood boiled at this point so I told her to go home and not be there when I get home us I will slap her for the way she is being so disrespectfull.
So I rang her mum my daughter and told her what was going on ,and she replyed well you should have left the key for her,how dare there tell me about what I should do with my key,I have left it before and they come and go as they please but this one day I didnot want to leave it.
I got so upset I cryed,and said that I am fed up of peaple walking over me,this had been coming for a few weeks now I have been holding it back but feeling really depresed and the time bomb went off yesterday.I got home and Aliegha was waiting outside for me,I told her that she has no respect and that she cannot talk to me that way,to that she said who do you think you are you can,t slap me,try it.Well I was in shock never have any of my kids or grandkids soke to me like that.She pushed past me and got her washing telling me that she won,t be around again and she don,t want my help.I told her to go and then when she had left I broke down in tears,and cryed for the rest of the night.I am still upset now,but I think this is a build up of over doing things and being tired,and it has let itselve out now.I needed to have a good cry as I have had a friend on my back all week too teling me all the bads about myself.And how I am not the same person,don,t there think that I don,t know that.Anyway Aliegha text me lastnight and said that she was sorry for all that she said and that she loved me,I am welling up again,I am so stupid.So thats the end of the tale,sorry for the ranting but had to tell someone.Got a busy day today my daughter is coming with the baby and she is taking me shopping,I feel like shuting the door going to bed,not opening the curtains and not talking to anyone.
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Don't let anyone get away with upsetting you like this or walking all over you.. they seem to be taking all you do for them for granted, as well as your home and that isn't good for anyone.. draw a line and don't let anyone over step your mark. don't take what they do or say personally.. they have their ssues and shouldn't take it out on you.. big hug for you xxx
Halli
YOU DEFINITELY NEED TO SET SOME BOUNDRIES WITH YOUR FAMILY AND THIS FRIEND. YOU SHOULD NOT BE DISRESPECTED IN THIS WAY. THEY NEED TO APPRECIATE WHAT YOU DO FOR THEM AND YOU WILL NEED TO REMIND THEM EVERY NOW AND THEN THAT YOU DO WHAT YOU DO OUT OF LOVE AND THE KINDNESS OF YOUR HEART. AND TO THAT END...YOU WILL NOT TOLERATE ANY DISRESPECT!!!
I WOULD HAVE BEEN CRYING TOO. SO YOU ARE WELCOME TO RANT HERE ANYTIME. HOPE TODAY IS BETTER FOR YOU. DEBBIE
SlipperySlope
I am sorry you are being taken for granted. The kindest people often are.
I hope your daughter and grandaughter will apologise to you.
Hugs, Ellie x
smartygirl2
I don't blame you for crying, I would be too!! I don't want to repeat what everybody else said because it is right on advice. It's hard to start putting boundaries in place with your loved ones, they do get angry for a spell but once they realize you really mean it, they come around, And you will be floored by the respect they show you!! They will test you, as all kids & adults do and say all kinds of mean things to you but stick to your decisions and they will respect you for it.
Take care, hugs Cathy
ragingfog
No child or grandchild should talk to you that way. I can't blame you for crying either. I don't know how these kids now adays have no respect for the older generation. Sometimes I think the more we do for them the more the expect out of us. Hope that they apologies soon to you. Head up and take care of yourself...Hugs, Connie
ConH
Thank you all for your kindness,yes and you are right I do have to put down boundries,I used to but after gettingb sick I seemed to have lost that control.But now I am putting them back.I am so tired today and worn out from it all.They both said sorry but the harm has been done,and yes I will forgive but will never get to that stage where it will happen again.
miahugsandprayers
I'm so sorry this happened Mia, you certainly didn't deserve that! But I'm glad they have apologized. Boundaries can be a tricky thing, but they are very necessary. I'm glad you've had a good cry (I would too!) and I hope you are feeling more like yourself very soon. Hugs, Sue
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