MIZKISTY

Close Breakups & Divorce

My husband left me thanksgiving 2007. we have no kids. married 6 years together 8. we got along very well and i truly never thought he would leave me. i did not have to worry about other women, not coming home, not working, drinking, etc. by all accounts my husband was a total 10. he told me that my weight, personal hygeine, and our money problems made him fall out of love with me and that he did not think we could meet our personal goals together. he is seeing is ex-seriously now.

Treatments

Couples Counseling Not Working

we tried couples counseling a year or so before he left and he lied to the counselor and refused to go alone. so needless to say it did not work. it was so obvious he was lying. he would have a fit at home but would go to the counselo and say he was just fine and did not know why i had any issues when he was the one who suggested counseling in the beginning anyway.

Forgiveness Not Working

it is very easy for me to forgive so this one is probably what got me into trouble to begin with. if someone tells me they are sorry then i can easily drop my anger. i dont stay mad over 10 minutes. my personal reactions are usually hurt, sadness, dissappointment but not anger. i am scared of what i would actually be like or do if i truly got pissed off!

Leave Considering

moving back to texas where my entire family and life was before i met my husband. i moved to florida to be with him. i love florida but it holds so many too many memories all good to me. i cant move on emotionally here. honestly i have been with my husband my entire adult life so any place will hold memories of him but florida is too much...

Love Not Working

honestly i love him too much. i am willing to take him back after him notifying me that he was cheating and sleeping with other women, that i was not his cup of tea, even after he is putting me into foreclosure and bankruptcy needlessly cause he is unwilling to work this marriage out and live with me and i cannot afford my current life without him and in florida i cannot get alimony without kids or being married over 10 years..... i woudl still take him back.

Music Somewhat Helpful

i listen to upbeat music only cause everything else will make me cry and think of him.

Psychotherapy Too Soon to Tell

i have begun to listen to cd's hypnotherapy while i am sleeping to remove depression and co-dependence, increase motivation and self-image. They are by edgar cayce.

Reading Somewhat Helpful

gets my mind off of my life when i read a syrupy love novel....

Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked

this helps me to get out of the house. i do not go actually anywhere in fear of seeing my ex with his new person.

Support Groups Somewhat Helpful

i went to a marriage 911 class for a few weeks. i met alot of women in my same ordeal. it helped me make it through the week and eased my anxiety. i began to understand not to feel so alone. they understood me truly. family and friends just dont and frustrate me with advice they would not take themselves. however, that class has ended.

Talking Somewhat Helpful

it has anlienated alot of my friends, frustrated my family, and kept him on my mind. however, it does help to relieve anxiety and loneliness that builds ups during the day.

Time Somewhat Helpful

it has been about 8 months since he left and i can stay at home alone without being scared. i can now think of things i like vs what we liked. he was truly half of me because i honestly have a hard time doing anything alone. i am much better now but have a long way to go to be where i was before i married.

Close Career Changes

Well, i am changing from sales to teaching as a career. i honestly never had a career but am choosing education due to i love helping others but always saw myself as a nurse. but even so the benefits and time off that it gives for a single parent are too much to discount. i will be able to help others and pursue my life vision.