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frankduffey
Male, 51, Gainseville, FL
"I am kind of lonely and I dont know where to go I dontb drink I am on Methadone & Morphine as it is"
9:23pm, January 15, 2009

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    frankduffey

    Male, 51
    Gainseville, FL, USA
    Member since February 4, 2008

    • About Me

      I was diagnosed with a brain tumor in May 2003, The surgery was done in june 2003 and I have been recovery form the surgery. I am involved with the Veterans MISA pprogram in Gainesville, Florida, I have been here for 3 years and I live alone here in a Apartment I am on Social Security Disability and I do not work, I do like to do volunteer work here and I plan on resuming that in the near future, I have been having trouble with pain from Arthritis and I am currently taking pain medication to deal with this, It seems to be worse during the winter when it is cold out, I have more trouble getting around I have to force myself to get out. Some people dont think I am sober if I take these pain meds they dont have the same health probl;ems that I do so I cant take them serious, I just dont go to many 12 step meetings I dont really benefit from these except tpo see people there and thats not why they are there. So I have been only going 1 times a week, it seems they dont have time to talk anyway.

      I was diagnosed with a brain tumor in May 2003, The surgery was done in june 2003 and I have been recovery form the surgery. I am involved with the Veterans MISA pprogram in Gainesville, Florida, I have been here for 3 years and I live alone here in a Apartment I am on Social Security Disability and I do not work, I do like to do volunteer work here and I plan on resuming that in the near future, I have been having trouble with pain from Arthritis and I am currently taking pain medication to deal

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      Photography I love to take Pictures of old Buildings and then I print them out on my printer and I paint them on canvas with acrylic paints , I also love to take Pictures of other people I get out and just take Pictures My roommate is moving soon We had a lot of fun taking pictures and sharing them on line with other people. I will miss her copainionship and caring

      Photography I love to take Pictures of old Buildings and then I print them out on my printer and I paint

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      From Scarlett4565 October 25, 2008

      I hope you are doing better. Thanks for writing me. Denise

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      From petitep October 1, 2008

      Welcome to the neuropathy group! We are looking forward to your input and learning more about you... I'm sure you'll find this group to be very warm and welcoming... Will you help pass the word - when you think someone has a neuropathy or pain issue - help by posting our link in the topics you reply to and let others know... Thanks!

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      From shaz5980 September 12, 2008

      How scary, but atleast the MRI showed nothing. Keep your chin up and good luck at the docs.

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      From MWH April 13, 2008

      I apologize that it's taken me so long to respond. I haven't been on the DS site for quite some time. I'm so sorry to hear of all your health problems, but hope that you've found some emotional relief in the time since you sent me a Hug. Best wishes to you!

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      From jmclay April 6, 2008

      I JUST READ YOUR PROFILE.YOUR AN AMAZING YOUNG MAN.

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    • Close Brain / CNS Tumors
      Type: Meningioma

      I had surgery in 2003 I am brain injured on SSDI now I have Bi Polar and Osteoarthritis in my back and my hip

      Treatments

      Surgery, Brain Working / Worked
      I am disabled limited memory and I repeat things I am still in recovery from the Surjery
      Support from Friends & Family Somewhat Helpful
      I dont have support from my family is too far away in another state. And my roommate is over at her boyfriends now I wenyt last night Was Febuaray 29th 2008 to my brain Injury support group and there was no one there for me to talk to I sayt with the staff and talked to one of the ladies there after the meeting who's dauther haed a brain tumor We talked about support and I told her I did not have a lot support here I did not get her number because she had a ring on I dont know if sjhe was married but I didmnt ask for a number I never do that my mistake all the time I am sfraid to ask for a phone number??
      Talking Working / Worked
      I an recovering from a surgey in 2003 there are some things that I will not be able to recover from like memory fuctions that I lost I am 100% Didsabled and on SSDI every month I get a check and that is what I live on

    • Close Alcoholism

      I have been sober for 2 years and I DON'T USE THE SPONSOR THING i USE MY CASE MANAGER AS MY SUPPORT PERSON

      Treatments

      12 Step Program Somewhat Helpful
      I cant seem to make connections with people thier it is veruy hard for me to talk to prople after the meeting I want to leabve right away
      AA Meetings Somewhat Helpful
      Sleep Working / Worked
      Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
      I do attend a AA meeting hhere and I am looking at atending new meetings here I am going to one tonight. I go for recovery and support for recoveruy I have not really met anyone female there yet. My VA Case manager suggusted trying new meeting so that s what I am doing this week end now, I do have 2 years and I was attending NA for aboiut 6 months and I have been attending AA now again before the first oof the year. I do give my cae manager a lot of the credit and I dont have what they call a sponser and I dont want one I talk with my Case Manager at the VA she is a fe,male and I get along beter with female and I listen more to ythem on directions I dont lknow why maybe it ia because I dont trust men I have issues I need to resolve Iwas Abused by 3 men I was Raped So I dont get close to men I dant care if they say they are stright the others did too and I was kidnapped in AA in Atlanta I was told they were taking me somewhere to stay and they drove me to an exit in laweranceville GA and pushed me out of the car ao no I dont even get in the CAr with a mle unless theuy are VA personal. Thats just the way I am And I probably wont change that In AA they say that you cant have a female sponsor so I don't have one Thats it. I thought about a lesbian sponser but I had a relationship with a girl who was bisexual and she wanted me to be with her friend and her as well most guys would have loved it She was very pretty and so was her friend, I just was scared I cpould not dom it with bothmOf them I started shaking and I was really scared I dont know why I rember the friend name was tammy she said whats wrong sweetie I told her I was scared so she just held me for a while sjhe was very pretty but I didnt have inter course with her I had oral sex but I could not come. The same thing happened with her friend Jessica. I found out from tammie that Jesicia was using drugs she told me so I told jessica I could not see her I was sad sor a long time but I am in recoveruy she understood because she was in NA for 4 years and she was clean but she said that sjhe was not ready and she could not try to do itb for me Get lean so I understood we parted as friend s I wish I could have gotten Tammies phone numnber shje was very nice to me, And I have been alone Now I mean It has been 6 months after I was with them now I was only with one other women and the same thing happensd again So Now It hjhas been 6 months with noone I have had sex with I have been tested and I have no STD or any type of VD disease I am clean, I am willing to try and meet women thats what my Nero,female doctor asid and
      Talking Working / Worked
      I am in A VA Group MISA that deals with Veterans whom have Mental Illness Like my Bi Polar and Substance abuse I only have Alcoholic problems no drug issues

    • Open Arthritis

      I have Osteoarthritis in my hip and my back it is very painfl I dont know if this is the correct group the type I have there is no cure for

      Treatments

      Pain Management Clinic Somewhat Helpful
      I have to go back for a fluro treatment on feb 19th at the VA Pain Clinic The last shot in my back lasted only 2 months
      Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
      I dont have support from my family is too far away in another state
      Talking Working / Worked
      I qam on APain Management program that helps but it does not stop all the pain there are days where I dont get out at all and it is difficult to even go somewhere I get asolated by my disease of Arthritis

    • Open Impotence & Erectile Dysfunction

      I had brain Injury and after that I havent been able to havea climax or anything when I am alone I cant even have a climax then its awful I dont know what to do I have taked to my Case ,manager at the VA and My doctor and all they ask me if I am dating and I say no I am not right now

      Treatments

      Support from Friends & Family Too Soon to Tell
      See Above Quotes
      Talking Not Working
      I dont have ED I have a problem of not being able to ejaculate abd I dont know if it is cured because I dont have a sex partner and I cant cum on my own nothing happens when I try alone. I need to reaolve this it affects my self esteam a lot I dont know what to do, I havent even dated I have only been with 2 women in 4 years. And I am not dating right now but I am trying to meet someone

    • Open Depression
      Type: Clinical (Major) Depression

      I have Bi polar Disorder so youcould say yes I am fighting depression 24 /7 the medicaTIONS HELP BUT i STILL GET DEPRESSED ABOUT BEING ALONE SO MUCH i ALSO HAD A BRAIN INJURY TOO IN 2003

      Treatments

      Meditation Working / Worked
      Writing Somewhat Helpful
      I post messages on my jornal on http://www.myspace.com/frankduff
      Support from Friends & Family Not Working
      I dont have support from my family is too far away in another state. My female roommate best friend is at her boyfriends right now
      Talking Working / Worked
      NOt as bad but it will be worse once my roommate moves out I dont do well alone at all. And I wont be alone I will find a female roommate I hope

    • Open Healthy Sex

      I have been having a problem with climax after i had my brain Tumor Surgery in june 2003 the Nero daoctor just asked who I could ask out and In told her noone I didnt have anyone to ask oiut she wanted to know that after I told her I could not climax alone for with a partner.

      Treatments

      Patience Working / Worked
      I havent been with any one for 7 months so I dont know if the changes in medication worked all I know is that I am unable to climax alone agian I cant do anything I gewt an erection but nothing, I dont know whats going to happen and that scares me I dont know if I will be able to perform when I have to
      Support from Friends & Family Considering
      I dont have a sex partner or a girl friend
      Talking Not Working
      I have not had sex in almost 8 months so I quess you could say that I am not getting any healthy sex.
      Sex Therapy Considering
      I have a probl;em and I cant get help I can not jhave a enaculation not alone or with a female, I can sometimes if I am giving pleasure to my partner, and she is painent enough to wait on me. ni DONT HAVE A PARTNER AND i AM WORRIED i WONT BE ABLE TO DO ANYTHING, dO i NEED A Surguoge sex theapist I dont know what to do any more I am afraid of giving up

    • Open Stroke

      I had a TBI in may 2003 the nero doctoer told me to file disability because ahe knew that I had damage from the stroke at the time I also had a Tumor that needeed to be renoved, So then they did the MRI and found the tummor and it was removwd but the damage was already done.

      Treatments

      Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
      Same a s sbove no support
      Talking Working / Worked
      I had a stroke before my brain Tumor surgey That waqs leading upm to my disability

    • Open Chronic Pain

      I have Osetoarthrities I have tried the Injections and they didnt work for my pain at all I am taking Methadone and Moraphine for pain

      Treatments

      Heat Working / Worked
      Helps but gets too hot I ahve a heating pad that I can turn on and you have to hoid the switch it doesnt stay on
      Methadone Working / Worked
      I am on 50MG a day
      Morphine Working / Worked
      As needeed 2 tablets every 4 hours Yes IT does wake me up and let me know I am in Pain in the middle of the night
      Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
      I have had this for a long time

    • Open Depression Supporters

      I wasa diagnosed with depression about 15 years ago they also thought I had Bi Polar disorder but that was wrong and I had a brain tumor removed in June 2003 I am disabled and on Social Security I live alone in a apartment here in Gainesville, Fl

      Treatments

      Talking Somewhat Helpful
      I really dont have anyone to call or talk to except my VA case manager and that is only during office hours, I dont have any new friends here, I had a female best friend she moved out and is moved on with her life, I dont see her now. So I guess I dont have anyone really at all.

    • Open Life After Divorce

      I had Brain Tumor Surgery in 2003 and my ex wife decided not to be supportive I left 4 years I have been divorced for 3 years now I filed myself I am not mad at all I just cant seem to move on, I dont know anything about dating at all. I have not dated after my divorce Ago I live alone and I havew not dated anyone I have clinical depression and I am a Veteran also I attend a MISA VA support group for the last 3 years, I am disabled on Social Security disability I do not work I am perm disabled

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