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About Me
maamgrey
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About Me
I'm Sue, 53 years old and now alone. My fiance and I met when we were 50 and we both had difficult lives before that. I've had several serious health issues. I had a stroke when I was 45, in 2003 went into a diabetic coma (didn't know I was diabetic). Was in the coma for 7 days and luckily awakened but found out I was a Type 1 diabetic and had to live with this horrible disease for the rest of my life. Two months later had a seizure. Lived alone my whole adult life and never expected to have anyone. Met Mike online at a diabetes forum. He had severe complications especially with his foot. He spent 4 months in 2005 in hospitals and rehabs having multiple surgeries. He lost his job, his wife threw him out so he lost his home and his kids and his dogs and everything he knew. After knowing him for 4 months I invited him to come live with me as a friend and so I could give him the medical care he needed. Obviously our feelings grew and last March he proposed. All the time we were together he couldn't walk and had many more surgeries and hospital stays. We were supposed to get married this May - the only reason we waited so long was because he wanted to be able to walk. Through all of this, we loved each other and we were happy. We appreciated each other so much because at our age and with all that we had both gone through, we knew how lucky we were to have each other. We never took it for granted. We lived together for just over 2 years. What was supposed to be a time of fun and joy planning our wedding has turned into the worst nightmare of my life. It seems so unfair after all we'd been through and finally found happiness to have it snatched away. It seems as if we were not supposed to have good lives. I don't know why but it sure is awful.
I'm Sue, 53 years old and now alone. My fiance and I met when we were 50 and we both had difficult lives before that. I've had several serious health issues. I had a stroke when I was 45, in 2003 went into a diabetic coma (didn't know I was diabetic). Was in the coma for 7 days and luckily awakened but found out I was a Type 1 diabetic and had to live with this horrible disease for the rest of my life. Two months later had a seizure. Lived alone my whole adult life and never expected to have anyone.
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Dogs, dogs, dogs, and dogs. Not just my interest, I'm a professional dog trainer. I have 4 of my own, one I got just a week ago in Mike's memory and honor. Reading, crocheting, being with my family.
Dogs, dogs, dogs, and dogs. Not just my interest, I'm a professional dog trainer. I have 4 of my own,
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Sue, been thinking about you and wondering how you are doing ? BIG HUG, Patti
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I am so glad to find you on this web again...I tried for a long time and couldn't get an answer and I was really worried about you!!! I just today decided to try Daily Strength 1 more time and there you!! Please don't leave me out in the cold like that again!! Pacer(Steff)
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Thinking of you Sue - I hope you can have as peaceful a day as is possible. Angela
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Sue, sending you lots of HUGS for the new year. Cindy
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Close Bereavement
Type: Loss of a Partner/SpouseMy fiance died of cardiac arrest and he was down for so long, he was brain dead. Instead of planning our wedding, I had to plan a funeral. We only had each other for 3 years and I want more. I want him back. Life is too lonely and sad without him.
Treatments
- Crying Too Soon to Tell
- Grief Counseling Somewhat Helpful
- It's good to know other people are experiencing the same grief.
- Keeping Busy Somewhat Helpful
- Takes my mind off things for a little bit.
- Pets Somewhat Helpful
- Psychotherapy Working / Worked
- Reading Somewhat Helpful
- Some good explanations of how I feel.
- Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
- Talking Working / Worked
- Time Considering
Close Widows & Widowers
My profile tells the whole story. My fiance died from cardiac arrest and subsequent brain death on January 26, 2008. We were supposed to get married this May. My life is so empty!
Treatments
- Grief Counseling Somewhat Helpful
- Like here, everyone shares your experience and feelings, but there's no cure any of us can give each other. Helps to know you're not alone
- Psychotherapy Working / Worked
- I can say anything here. My therapist alo saw Mike so she knew him and she's the best person I can talk to.
- Reading Working / Worked
- Found some books really helpful in explaining grief and giving me permission to have my feelings.
Open Diabetes Type 1
I discovered I was a diabetic by going into a 7-day DKA coma in Feb. 2003. Fortunately I came out of it. I am one of those anomalies - I am Type 1 and was diagnosed in my 40s. I HATE this disease. The complications from it killed my fiance 6 months ago. (We actually met on another diabetes website 3 years ago). It is SO relentless - you can't eat or drink or exercise or sleep or go anywhere without having to take your diabetes into consideration.
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- Humalog Working / Worked
- Insulin Pump Working / Worked
- I LOVE the freedom my pump gives me!
- Symlin Not Working
- Tried it for several months - didn't seem to have any effect so I stopped. And it was a pain going back to MDI.
Open Insomnia
I've always been a poor sleeper. I wake up several times a night. Sometimes I just look at the clock and go back to sleep. But since I'm diabetic I usually test my blood sugar when I wake up. Then sometimes I have to eat. I'm always exhausted.
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Open Graves' Disease
25 years ago diagnosed with Grave's. Had all the classic symptoms but my tests kept coming out high normal. They put me in the hospital with a pulse of 165 and did more tests and finally concluded Grave's. I don't know what tests but I do remember having a thyroid scan. Had RAI, continued to have same symptoms. After 3 months found out RAI hadn't worked and had it again. This time it finally worked. Went hypo, started meds. Have had repeat hyper episodes over the years - am in one now.
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- Radioactive Iodine Working / Worked
- First time didn't work, had it again 3 months later and it worked.
