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DianeKay 
1:11pm, August 30, 2009
I hate to be a drag. I am usually upbeat but I can't shake the feeling of guilt for not saving Zoe. Krystal is still so hurt and heartbroken over losing him. We all are. So hard to believe he is gone. Many may say, "It was only a cat." but we do not feel that way. He was a loving special member of our family and I feel guilty over his loss. He was only 8 yrs. old.
Just very blue today.
Hugs to all.
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Any one who love cats and dogs and have them and love them will grieve over their death just as they would for a person. The grief is much shorter especially if they get another one.
rogerledwards
Don't beat yourself up over Zoe. From what you described it was his time to go. He's much better off now. Look into getting another. It took me a few months to finally get another dog to replace my Girlee. It was a good move for me. Take care. Joe
JoeC
Hugs to you Diane. Losing a pet is like losing a member of the family.
It will take time for all of you to heal. You should think of getting another one.
Hope you have a good week.
Dianne
dianne43
Of course you are grieving over your lose Diane, but please don't carry that guilt. Life is based on God's time, not ours. Donna
zippyy
"pets put pawprints on our hearts"....so true. I'm so sorry you feel so tortured by this, but i completely understand. It will take time for the sorrow to ease up for sure. In the meantime i would suggest trying to think of happy memories of your pet everytime you think of him. Its hard, but like i said, it does get easier with time. I was curious if you have a memorial spot or anything for him at home?
bmega442
big hugs for you and Krystal. you did what you could diana so don;t feel guilty. sometimes we don;t know why but we all lost our pets. time will help heel the both of you... plant a nice plant for zoe and know thats him. maybe that will help you... prayers for both. gail
gghcgail
Thank you all for your loving support. I am finally letting loose of the guilt. I know I loved him and took good care of him. We will make it . Will take my Krystal a bit longer as he was her baby and best friend. I hurt because she hurts. Love you and appreciate your kind words of encouragement.
Hugs to all.
DianeKay
Diane, I grieved over my last dog for 5yrs. even though I got another dog the day after she passed away. I had terrible guilt over her passing because if I had taken her to the vet sooner she would probably have lived another year maybe two. The new dog I got is a wonderful dog and now I feel so guilty about spending 5 yrs. grieving over the old dog instead of enjoying the new one to the fullest. and if the other dog hadn't of passed away I would never have gotten the wonderful dog I have now. Guilt comes with the teritory. It takes a very special kind of a person to be able to deal with all the grief and guilt associated with having pets because they don't live long enough. It's not uncommon to grive over a pet just as you would a person, and maybe even more so. By the way the dog that I grieved over for 5yrs. had a uterous infection and because I didn't get her to the vet fast enough she had heart failure during surgery. Our pets weather alive and with us or gone on to be with the Lord in heaven do not want us to feel bad. Zoe is not going to remember any of the pain or suffering where he is now in heaven. Love is eternal, pain is not. I know you are feeling a terrible loss but please try not to get too far into the guilt thing, it can make you feel really sick and I know Zoe doesn't want that to happen to you or Krystal. They want us to remember the happy times and what a blessing and joy they were to us, if they made us happy then they fulfilled their lifes destiny. They try so hard to make us happy so don't forget about all of that. It was just his time to go, you and Krystal didn't make him get sick. Even knowing all of what I've said may not make you feel any better because like I said, it just comes with the territory and all of us who have lost pets have gone through exactly the same thing you describe. Even if you had taken him to the vet sooner they probably would have kept him there in that strange place and he could have passed away there. Even vets can't save animals when it is their time to go. At least Zoe was with you when he passed and very much comforted by your presence and not all alone in some cage in a strange place. You did the best you could and you and Krystal were wonderful parents to Zoe. God bless you Dear. I'm praying for you that God will help you get through this pain of loss of a very much loved member of your family. You'll both see Zoe again, try to look ahead and not look back. Zoe is wating for you on the other side in the next life, the eternal one. Love and Hugs ~ Annie
Annie100
This is awesome Annie. Thank you very much.
DianeKay
Do get you another kitty~~It helps when loves takes over again..Love ya
Glenda