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hja 
11:46pm, April 1, 2009
I know some of you knew that I was in an abusive relationship. This past thursday when he had his angry, verbal outrage, I knew deep down it had to be the last straw. Called parents early Friday to see if they'd pick me up to stay the weekend.They said no problem. At first, I had no intentions of moving in, but after talking to my family, I realized I was in such a deep rut, I couldn't see how bad I was getting. So I made the decision to get out of that place and move back home.
Not sure why I was so against it at first(hindsight tells me I was too sick to see how bad off I was). I sure didn't want to leave scooby, my dog, but my parents don't allow pets in their house.
The best thing about moving home is I get to spend time with daughter everyday. It was so cool yesterday, she asked me to help her with her science project. I was shocked. She at that age, 16, where she is becoming independent somewhat, so i give her that privacy.
Mom and dad have grown alot more mellow in their older years and they don't ask hardly anything out of me. I vaccum, sweep, do dishes, ... so they won't think I'm lazy. lol
Thanks to all of you who supported me through this and for being patient with me on this move. I knew I should have done it along time ago, but I was stuck and scared.
I am feeling freedom, relief and some happiness. Little bit sad over missing scooby, but it's better than living in the hell hole I was in. I am slowly,but surely coming out of the darkness that I didn't even realize I was in.
Love always, helen
Comments
glad u got out and hope ur life is now going to treat u right x
winny
I also am so glad you were able to get out! I really hope now you can begin to have your own life back again. I am so glad you are safe and in a place where you are loved and supported! Hugs!!
Batdog
Im so glad u got out hunnie, i know this will do u the world off good and to get ur own life back, i am always here for u through think and thin and im glad u are safe now, love u so much u are a true inspiration love and hugs xxx
AFC09
wahoooooooooooo.. you made the right choice..Im also here for you
meandthebeast
Im really proud of you, this is another thing on your list of recovery. Im glad you get to see Tiffany more and i wish you the very best. I am so happy your finally safe. HUGSx
IonaJ
Wow - Well done Helen. Very very very important and wonderful thing you've done. I hope things stay positive for you. You should be so proud of yourself. You did something amazing x
floopy
I hope things continue to take an upward swing for you. This is just the first step of many to come. I know how hard it is to leave a pet behind. 6 years ago, I left my kitties Rumball and Ocie behind. I still miss them at times. Perhaps as your life becomes more stable, you will be able to find a place for you and your daughter, where you will be able to have a pet.
HUGS!
Linda
Testycatlady
Wow, that is an absolutely amazing step to make!! You are really fighting hard. I'm sorry you had to leave the pooch behind (the dog, not your ex). The sacrifices you are making WILL pay off. Congratulations :-)
LaughMeLovely
I';m glad you got out of there. I know it's a hard step to take, I did it once but after you get out it starts to be easier.
48gem
WTG i'm so proud of u,I knew u were in a bad place and i'm so glad u made that move.B/c u don't need that u r sweet kind loving and worth so much.U got moxy.I'm beaming right now. :)
emmalyn
WTG i'm so proud of u,I knew u were in a bad place and i'm so glad u made that move.B/c u don't need that u r sweet kind loving and worth so much.U got moxy.I'm beaming right now. :)
emmalyn
Oh wow! Turning a new chapter in the book of Helen. You are a woman of such courage. Please let me know if I can ever be of support. Tiffany will always need you. xoxo
Gabrador
I'm so happy and proud of you. It doesn't matter that it took a while. It matters that you were brave enough to get out of the darkness. I wish you the best living with your parents and when you feel strong enough to live on your own I hope Scooby will be there.
Hey I'm 40 but when it comes to science I would ask you too with any science project. Was never my strength, hihi.
Karrin
Missing Scooby may be good drive to get your own place eventually, be an independent women, but with your daughter as well. It's always an option and anything is better than being exposed to that negativity you were.
I am so glad that you were brave enough to get out of there and so relieved that you are safe. Stay positive and know that I am thinking about you as you adjust. Way to go! xo
havenofear
I am so proud of you. I had to leave an abusive marriage. I know how hard it is to do, but you couldnt have made a better decision. Now your safe and you can work on you getting better. Im so very happy for you.
indygal
Your news is wonderful and I wish you all the best life has to offer. I've been in a verbally abusive/alcoholic marriage for 15 years, so I can relate to how hard it is, not as easy as pack your stuff and leave like a lot of peeps say. Everyone has their different issues. You are an inspiration and Amen to your happiness. xoxoxo
pamkays
You deserve to be treated right. I am just glad you are away from him and are now living in freedom. That took a lot of courage and I am proud of you. Stand strong and don't let him manipulate you into doing what he wants. It is about you now and what you need
InHisStrength
GOOD NEWS! Yes, it is about time but at least you got out of there before you were dead. Great to see the strength to do the right thing finally well up inside of you. That's a big step and the best news is you're free finally. Way to go!
ColdNovemberRain
i am so proud of you and i have also been there and yes the first step is the hardest but then the peace and happiness comes. i knew you would do this becuase you have more strength than you realize. don't ever blame yourself for anything that happened there and just take one step at a time and lean on us to help you through it. i love you and you are my hero!!
carolina320
I am so glad that you made a decision you will never regret! Life is too short and you can now focus on YOU being first! I feel you are a strong woman and am proud to have you as a dear friend! GOD BLESS! xoxo! Gord.
Willgord