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hlks 
11:26pm, October 23, 2009
I am well and truly pissed. I'm sick and tired of the LGBT community being just as bigoted, just as hateful, and just as judgemental towards each other as the straight community is towards them. I'm sick of being verbally accosted from gays and straights for being bisexual. I was just reading a thread on the LGBT reddit about how hateful the transgendered community is among themselves- how post ops look down on pre ops and M-F post ops look down on F-M pre ops, etc, etc. There are even people of all persuasions in the LGBT community who think that somehow sexuality is still a choice.. that it doesn't have to do with how you're biologically born.
I just came across this quote on the LGBT reddit forums: " as for sexual orientation being something you are born with, this seems to be more true for the male sex than the female sex"
So... men are either born Gay bi or straight, but women get to choose? In who's f'ed up world is this true in?! So much for being a community and supporting each other! This is ridiculous beyond words.
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I also wanted to say that I just started a local LGBT meetup group and this kind of shit will get people kicked out ASAP!
hlks
Pardon my language, but I think straight or gay people are just myopic, self righteous assholes! Try an intellectual community. If you find a good one (I am straight, though) let me know. I think it would be nice to have a live and let live forum where people support each other in whoever they are, accepting what they say without criticizing them. I don't know if one is born gay or not and after all, to me, who cares? If you are gay you are gay. End of story. That doesn't make you any bit different. You are a human being first and probably very nice and interesting. Someone one would like to know. Good luck!
Lain2
Heather, have you checked in to the Sex Ed 101 group at all? A bunch of us left HS and started a group of our own...and I have to say, in the 5 months that we've been operating, there has not been a single case of anyone looking down on anyone else for ANY reason. It's a completely judgemental free zone, for love and support of all members. And we do have gay/straight and bisexual members...all of whom love and support each other regardless of orientation.
Just thought you might like to know.
ldmay0426
Thanks Lain! you're right.. I know it's not just the LGBT community that squabbles moronically, but you'd think that we'd unite against ignorance within our own group if only for the sake of gaining rights and acceptance with the rest of the world. You have no idea how many people in the bisexuality support group say that the being sexually attracted to men and women doesn't make you bisexual (there was a thread about this.. *sigh*). I'm just frustrated...
Idmay, no i haven't seen it- I did leave HS quite a while ago because it seemed to be a place to boast of sexual exploits, brag about being slutty, or just cyber.. not about healthy sex at all.. in fact, some of it was quite unhealthy. I'll definitely check out the group.
The big thing is.. as someone who's actively fighting for rights in the LGBT community it royally pisses me off when we actually hurt our own progression. The religious right in the US, of course, thinking homosexual acts are sinful have only been fought against by the fact that one is born with their sexual identity and to have openly gay people saying that's not true? It's like I have to fight the straight people to get rights AND i have to fight our own community to get rights! It's one step forward and two steps back.
I don't know.. I'm sure this is all made worse by my own state of heightened irritability and passion due to the bipolar... but really... it's quite ridiculous.
hlks
Lol, you should try the Deaf Community. I'm hard of hearing but I don't wear a hearing aid, and I sign but I don't sign perfectly. I think almost every "community" has the elitist bastards because they go there wanting to feel like they are part of something separate, just don't listen to them kiddo. I"m proud of you for being active in the politics.
evolpaige
thanks ^_^
hlks
Your response brought up a question that i have pondered many times before. The comment about people that believe being sexually attracted to both genders does not make you bisexual...
*and please note, i'm not trying to argue, just seeking opinions*
I am very sexually attracted to both males and females. However, I haven't ever exactley considered myself bisexual. I guess for the fact that I can't ever see myself in a romantic and/or emotional relationship with a female. The attraction is purely sexual. When I think of myself in terms of an actual relationship, I only desire to be romantically involved with a man.
So does that make me bisexual or not? Again, I'm merely asking your opinion, not trying to debate.
I am 100% of the belief that a person has no control over whom they love, and even though I am in a heterosexual relationship, I am a firm believer in gay rights.
Im just curious how a person like me fits into a sexual orientation role. I don't exactley consider myself straight...but then again I'm not sure that I'm bi either.
ldmay0426
sexual orientation is just that- sexual. relationship style is not part of your sexuality. if you are sexually attracted to both men and women, then yes, by definition, you are bisexual.
hlks
consider this... a straight man has sex with many women his entire life.. but isn't the setteling down type and can't see himself in an actual relationship ever.. does that make them not straight anymore?
hlks
very good points. that makes a lot of sense.
ldmay0426
Well I'm glad to finally hear someone point out the bigotry in the lgbt community. I'm bi and dated women only before I got with my bf. Before I felt I had to suppress my attraction toward men. My friends turned on me when I got with my bf. They teased me and I've always felt I couldn't be myself. Also I feel my bf family is not accepting of me. I'm not happy in my relationship and I do miss women but I see my gay friend's prejudice still and I need support to accept myself fully. I wish the gay community would truly unite.
spinalone5