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bluesun 
5:17pm Wednesday
Matthew and I really fit for each each other in so many ways. i mean... he is the closest "perfect match" to me i've ever known or could possibly have. but one thing that we're NOT on the same page about is how we feel about life.
I believe I am a student of life's teachings... i seek wisdom. therefore, when i make a mistake or things go bad, i take what lessons i can, build it on to me for the future, and move on. i keep learning and building. at least that is what i TRY to do. and there is ALWAYS room to grow. i'm not perfect and so i will have times i fail again, but i'm human like everyone else. and NO ONE IS PERFECT.
but Matthew (possibly) seems to belive that people are stamped out from birth maybe? that we take the form of our parents and are 'built" for certain things or places in life that our parents once have. i agree with him that we are born with personality... but CHARACTER is another story. character is what we develop thru life's BS that it thrown at us. and remember, its not how big the problem is that is thrown at us... it's how we solve it (or conquere it). or in other words, "it's not the size of the hole we're in, it's how we get our selves out."
born with personality, yes. but we DO have choices in life that we make... and we CHOOSE to take paths that will strengthen or weaken certain areas of our character. this "experience" is what shapes our character. if we want to strengthen areas of our character, then we will find ways in life to do so... even if it's an up hill climb.
the other thing that me and him tend to disagree on is moral. obviously it is because we grew up mainly on opposite sides of the planet. i believe there IS a true right and wrong (at least with basics) and we are to follow them. but for him, it's about opinion (just as the common American would say). i have noticed that most Americans have a tendancy to say "I FEEL like doing this..." instead of " I should / need to be doing that..." therefore a lot of wreckless or irrisponsible things are done and here in the States that kind of behaviour is "normal". but like i've said before, 'normal" is a myth... what's normal in one culture isn't really normal in others.
despite our differences, Matthew and I usually tend to work them out. mostly becasue there are so many things we DO share and are on the same page about, a side from our love for each other. i have never connected before with anyone like I do with him. i just hope and pray one day that he does overcome his depression very soon... i hate to see him hurting like this. and i do pray that one day he may become a God fearing man... not religious, but God fearing. he has told me that he believes that Jesus is his saviour... but for some reason i don't feel the fear of God in him. and in this life, you can't really make it thru with out it, life can have a thumb on you. having God by your side can help you and set you on the path He wants you to be, which is to live a blessed life.
anyways... thanks for hearing me out on my thoughts about life... thanks for being awesome friends!! and i would love to hear your input! love you all and God bless!
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I hope he starts to feel better soon...but since I to suffer from depression I know how he feels. but I am glad he has you there for him!! as long as you work together you"ll be just fine. life is hard but if it was easy we wouldn't learn anything and life would be boring!!! so hang in there. my prayers will be with you two!!! luv ya!!
crazyfibro
Colleen and I hope the best for you and Matthew. You are a great friend! Wally and Colleen
wallyw44
You are compatable on superficial things, but seem not to share the same faith. Unequal yoking is not a fatal element to a marriage, but it will take a lot of diligent effort, from the heart, on the part of the true follower of the way. From what you have said, my opinion, which is worth what you make of it, is that you are the "true believer"; if there is such a thing. In our times, truth seems to have taken on a meaning somewhat different from He who is the Way. I can offer some help about the depression, I think, but he would need to contact me. And remember. I am a person who was dragged by the scruff of his neck right up off the basement of hell by the Spirit of the Way. I have no degrees, other than a 35 year old AA degree, and I am not setting myself up as a therapist. I know what worked for me, and I know how to practically share that. You have to want it, not need it. Now may the peace of God, which is far to wonderful for the human mind to comprehend, keep your hearts and minds in the Living Way.
BobCJ
I belive both. God has set out our lives for us and knows what we will do with them but he also gave us freewill and we make choices. He knows what choices we will make in the long run but most of them are not the choices he would have liked us to choose. And I belive we reep what we sow. We suffer by our free will choices and have to live out the results of our actions.
mommabull
I hear what you're saying and agree with alot of what you're saying. I, honestly, live by the American thinking because I've never been a part of another culture. I, do, however, tend to try and learn about and be respectful about other cultures. So, hearing what you say about another culture is so true! I hope Matthew finds his way out of this depression. But, I do know that with you and God by his side, he can overcome anything and everything. Well, girl, I guess in all of that, I just want to say that I love and respect you and know that you are an angel sent from above.
babygirl28
I too believe that people are who they are raised to be. We are taught to live for the feel good moments.That's why people can wilfully do something that they know is wrong, and yet to them it's not bad enough for them to stop and think about the consequences of their actions BEFORE they act. People become what they see around them as they are growing up. You either learn to just accept certain things or you learn to despise them. People are who they are raised to be whether it be right or wrong, and only God can make you see what is truly right and wrong.
If we go through our lives rejecting God then we will never learn how to love any deeper than our own selfish feelings will let us. We will never learn or understand what true forgiveness, unconditional love, or self sacrifice really is.
God bless.
Sherlock1217