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JimK 
1:29pm Thursday
Saturday, September 20, 2008
Food prices are going sky high. Yesterday I did my grocery shopping, and I could not believe how much the cost of groceries has increased. Gas prices continue to rise, and the rest of the economy has gone to pot. It sure is time for a new president.
A longtime friend of my sister, from England, has been visiting her for the past 10 days. Although my sister would have preferred staying home, during this period, she took her friend on several trips throughout this state, Arizona, and New Mexico. They returned yesterday.
I could tell that my sister was angry. When I talked with her on the phone, she started sniping at me. She began referring to my desire to get closer to my brother, and said that she did not know why I wanted to go through all that. When she had seen my social worker with me at the mental health clinic, and had agreed to have a family conference, which included my brother, I thought that she understood that I needed to do that in order to determine whether we had a meaningful relationship or not. She is apparently having second thoughts now.
This afternoon, I am going to a birthday party for my great-nephew, as well as for my sister's boyfriend. I am hopeful that my sister will be in a much better mood today. If not, then I will just have to grit my teeth and keep quiet, because I am not going to ruin what is supposed to be a happy time by arguing with her.
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I agree about the new president. It was pretty scary to watch one of my favorite countries being led by and old-boys club.
I'm excited about both presidential choices. Are you? I think if I was American I'd likely vote McCain but I'd have to do a lot of mulling over it.
I'm not sure how I feel about your sister and brother. I think they are damn lucky to have you as a sibling, I'm just not so sure they are aware of how lucky they are. I'm a big, big fan of awareness.
Jim, is your brother younger than you or older than you? I can't remember if you've mentioned that. I think that plays a large role in my relationships. I feel it's my older siblings duty to watch out for me, just as it's my job to watch out for all those younger than me.
" If not, then I will just have to grit my teeth and keep quiet, because I am not going to ruin what is supposed to be a happy time by arguing with her."
You wouldn't be the one ruining, my friend.
Samadian
When we bring our families into our counseling sessions, things can get very marbleized.
I always thought it would be just like a really good and honest conversation.
Not a chance.
My son, when he happened to be in my town, went with me ONE time to see my doctor . My son is very intelligent. I always thought he was a very compassionate man. He is. My doctor tried over and over again to explain to my son about my disability and what it entails. My son shocked me by saying that he believes I could think positive thoughts and snap out of it. Then I could be the perky person that I used to be. I have found that what family says and how they react and process what happens in counseling sessions with you, sometimes, are not even close to options you had considered.
Your sister will come full circle on this.
She is working some of this through her mind right now.
She has been family to you for a long time.
Your sister is all churned up right now.
The trip with her friend must have added to her irritatibility.
As you said, she would have preferred to stay home.
We both know how travel and exasparate even the best of us.
Your brother, it appears, is a bird of a different color.
Time will tell where he is concerned.
I admire your self discipline in realizing that a birthday party was for celebration and not the place to get into deep, perhaps difficult conversations.
All will fall into place.
Everything will work out.
GoodGod
What GoodGod said, plus...
Per chance your sister and her friend were talking about the situation.... Remember, NEITHER of them is in possession of all the facts about you. So all they could do is speculate.
It sounds like your sister may have been doing a little 'fortune telling' in her head, and last I heard, fortune telling was a HUGE psychotherapy no-no.
So just tell her MY crystal ball is bigger than hers, and filled with Mojo too.
Hugs... Weebs
KweebsLS
Both my brother and sister are older than me. My brother is older by five years, and my sister by ten. No matter what I may say, I do love them both except for those occasions when I get upset with them. My sister tends to be over-protective of me, which may have a lot to do with why I have not tried finding an apartment closer to where she lives.
My brother has had a grudge against me for more than forty years. He resented the fact that when we were children, my parents gave him the responsibility of "taking care of me" after school, as well as at other times. He felt that because of this, he was unable to spend as much time with his friends as he would have liked. I have tried, unsuccessfully, telling him that he should put the blame on our parents, where it belonged, rather than on me, but he just won't listen.
In more recent years, my use of drugs has torn us further apart. On the other hand, I find it ironic that he dislikes me for my prior drug use, but it was apparently alright for him to have a secret drinking problem for twenty some years.
Both my brother and sister have been through counseling sessions of their own. All of us have had our demons to deal with. I am hopeful that with their help I'll work through some of my problems, but if not, I will keep working on solving them in other positive ways.
My sister is, perhaps, the last one who should ever do any "fortune telling." She, too, has unsolved problems, which she has not yet even begun to face.
JimK
Yah, I think you are the one who needs the least help here. At least you aren't in such deep denial.
Your brother sounds mighty selfish.
Samadian