I am a 47 year old divorced male, serving as the primary in-home care provider for my 77 year old mother who I learned in January 2007, has COPD -- a fact she hid from family for years until her second exacerbation this past month. I am a former corporate banker from Chicago, now shifting gears to care for my mother at home and grateful for the opportunity to care for someone who cared so much for me in raising me all those years. New to COPD, I am looking for coping strategies for the future.
I am a 47 year old divorced male, serving as the primary in-home care provider for my 77 year old mother who I learned in January 2007, has COPD -- a fact she hid from family for years until her second exacerbation this past month. I am a former corporate banker from Chicago, now shifting gears to care for my mother at home and grateful for the opportunity to care for someone who cared so much for me in raising me all those years. New to COPD, I am looking for coping strategies for the future.
My 3 kids (another state), cooking, dancing, piano playing, gardening, community service, webcamming, helping enact legislation, studies in Divorce/Parental Alienation Syndrome
My 3 kids (another state), cooking, dancing, piano playing, gardening, community service, webcamming,
August 30, 2009 11:23pm
I am well versed in Parental Alienation Syndrome, having been a victim for years of an ongoing campaign of denigration against me by my Ex, her using …
December 17, 2008 11:17pm
My 79 year old mother has fallen into a dysfunctional behavioral pattern that is making it very difficult to be around her. She will take the …
May 21, 2008 5:38am
This is not an "urgent" call for help, but it is a general call for insight and assistance with a different kind of depression that has …
February 3, 2008 5:36am
I reconnected via email with a friend that I haven't seen in 26 years and that has given me a bit of a lift over the last couple of days. …
February 1, 2008 10:49am
Feeling a bit better today. Was not horribly down or depressed before but had some new problems that reared their ugly head earlier this week …
Your too hard on your self. but instead stop and realize all that you have done and do, you have much self worth and to be proud of and grateful for.
Oh Cheer up, My day has been rotten, Misery loves company but I am sure you should be above this therefore you need to cheer up so you can honestly look back at me and my day and say Daamn and be glad yr not me.
Hi JMS! Wow thanks so much for that information. Sounds like you share my grief, and even take it to another level. At least I have peace here in my home. I will certainly look into the website you sent and I very much appreciate that. Go Bless and Happy Holidays!
Thanks, Our Issues deal more with the autism of Aspergers and her lack of empathy because of it, and add to this it seems both she and her new mate are narcissists. she hardly recognizes anyone else's needs of feeling besides her own, not even her children's. she done publicly admitted she has little nurturing capability's.
My 77 yr old mother had her 1st COPD Exacerbation in 1/07 triggered by a cold turned pneumonia because she waited going to the Dr., believing home remedies would work. Her Generalist Dr. had not educated her on what was an Exacerbation. My mother learned, experienceing suffocation, panic, hallucinations, dimensia, loss of muscle/bladder control, shaking, & inability to speak or chew. Near death, a pulmonoligist was called and a CPAP revived her. She's now quit smoking after 40 years.
I've suffered thru YEARS of unlawful visitation interference by my children's custodial parent who did so purposely to alienate them from me (PAS). While no consequence came to her after being reported many times, the child support I must pay is aggressively enforced. But I've developed a coping strategy that mitigates the effect of PAS, and that is through Virtual Visitation, or visitation by webcam which has done wonders to bring my children back to me and has normalized relations with my Ex.
I used to be very close to my eldest daughter, but due to divorce, distance, and her being reared by the parent she didn't want to have custody (her mother), she's fallen into many bad behaviors and is now about to graduate high school. I fear she is unprepared, may deteriorate further, and that I've lost her. I've established a webcam connection to bridge the distance, but only her 12 and 10 year old siblings use it actively.
After years of being unable to connect soulfully with my wife, she finally admitted, "Of COURSE I don't love you...Of COURSE I married you for money...but if you ever try to divorce me I will make your life a LIVING HELL" (Histrionic Personality Disorder). After the long divorce she declared, she engaged in a campaign of denigration against me before our children (PAS) and illegally denied me visitation and all communication with my children. I've found a way to mitigate the separation anxiety tho.
At one point, I seemed to be a magnet for women who started off being nice, but then turned into physical and emotional terrorists. I've been cut by knives, attacked with hammers and cars, extorted, blackmailed, vandalized, verbally thrashed with every profane expression one could imagine, stolen from, broken into...all at the hands of women, typically alcoholics with jealousy issues. No more. I moved away and live a peaceful life in small town. I don't even date. Although lonely, I'm at peace
I am the non-custodial father of 3 children. Although my children wanted me to have full custody because I was the better parent and their mother was an emotionally abusive terrorist to them, I lost the custody battle under the typical anti-male bias in an ultra-conservative county court system. Today I remain very active in the weekly lives of my children through Virtual Visitation, emails, phone calls and visits in person.
I am the non-custodial parent of 3 children who live 1500 miles away. Through the use of Virtual Visitation (visiting by webcam) in between visits in person, I have been able to greatly diminish the effects of Separation Anxiety and have even helped reversed some of the long term Parental Alienation effects my children were suffering under with their mother who illegally denied all contact for several years
I am taking care of my 77 year old mother who has had Obcessive-Compulsive Disorder for as long as I can remember. It is being complicated by the fact that her world has gotten increasingly smaller as a result of her terminal lung-disease that makes her more and more of a shut-in, and less able to interact and socialize with other adults such that her OCD is becoming more pronounced and causing lots of strife over tiny things that should not be the cause of a family melt-down.
I am the primary in-home care provider for my 79 year old mother who has had OCD all her life. When her OCD affects most every task or activity we engage in together, her OCD becomes my problem too. So my hope is to try to discover techniques or strategies of dealing with someone with OCD and who won't acknowledge their own problem or take steps to try to improve. At 79, you are mostly beyond changing so the task falls to others to accomodate your ways, even if they are dysfunctional.
I am the in-home care provider for my 79 year old mother who is in and out of the hospital with an incurable lung disease (COPD). Due to her low immunities. she can have only limited contact with others as merely catching a cold could cause an exacerbation and land her back in the hospital in a life-threatening situation.
I have eye problems that are exacerbated by having to spend many hours on the computer each day. One eye in particular keeps turning red and giving off a yellowish discharge and I have been given several different prescriptions, but only by my primary care physician. The optometrist believes it is Blepharitis but I am attempting to get to an opthamologist because I believe with so many reoccurances, it is more than just an eyelid infection.
I have high blood pressure and high cholesterol which are moderated to normal levels via medication. Recently, I have developed a persistent pain in my heart region although the EKG and chest X-ray prove negative / nothing wrong. I am searching for answers as the pain won't go away.
