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lylajean 
2-17-09 Tuesday
I have been so busy but am taking a moment to catch up here... We are all doing ok and managing to keep our heads afloat, which is saying a lot during economic times like these. I have gone back to volunteering in my children's classrooms 3 days a week, so I have less free time and am pretty busy catching up when free time comes. The teachers appreciate my help because they have noticed my gift for tutoring those that struggle the most. I know what it's like for them because I have children that are just like them, but I also understand what it's like to be them because I too struggled greatly as a child and sometimes still do as an adult. But there is definately less struggling going on now that I have been on medication for my ADHD. My husband struggles less now too that he has began medication for his ADHD also. My 2 children with ADHD are doing very well also, and my daughter who is gifted, is doing well also since we found out how gifted she truly is and has been advanced from early 2nd grade to late 3rd grade GATE. We are still plugging along with my husband's back injury from when he was rear ended by a big rig last July. He still sees his lawyer, and he is being scheduled for a spinal injection that will hopefully help. Both of his parents have worked in the home and construction field for a great number of years, and just recently his father's lumber company closed it's doors causing him to be unemployed after working there for 38 years and he's only 58. His mother has worked for a home manufacturing company for 25 years and is probably destined for the same fate. So our future may include increasing our family size which would be extrememly difficult... But I know that together, we can deal with anything that comes our way, and that we will learn a lot along the way..... Hope all is well with all of you and yours.... Hugs, lylajean
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I haven't had time to keep up on here but now I have a moment to catch up. I did decide to follow through on my diagnosis of ADHD and get treatment as we had done for our children and I'm so glad I did and wish I had done so a long time ago! I go to therapy to learn to cope better and I'm on medication for the ADHD. I have never felt better mentally and emotionally in my entire life! Now I understand the difference in my children! I am more focused, more patient, less fidgety, more under control, and more open to take a moment and enjoy the simple things where as before I was too wound up tight to do any of the above. I also now feel better equiped to handle things like we now have to do with our 7 yr. old middle daughter who is the opposite of my ADHD children, she is gifted but the ironic part is that we are going through some of the same struggles as with my other children. We are trying to get the school to move her up a grade because she is not only very accademically advanced but she is also very mature and is having an extrememly hard time fitting in. Our family psychiatrist has seen her and says that she is very depressed and that her emotional well being is at stake very similar to having a learning disability because she too knows that she is different than those around her and is treated as such and doesn't fit in. I know our rights and I will get it done ASAP. The school doesn't stand a chance with me because I've been down this road before. Hope all is well with you all and Happy Holidays... Hugs, lylajean
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I so happy that your getting the help that u need.Lots of love viv xxxx
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I happy the meds are working and you feeling better. As for your daugther you are doing all you can do. I was also depress as a child and now. I did not fit in, I know that feeling. I was not gifted but mature.
May everything workout for the best. Regard
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I am soooo happy that you followed through and are feeling much better. You guys are off to a healthier new year already. Lots of hugs....!!!!!
You all know that I have 2 ADHD children who have been on meds., therapy, and treatment for almost a year now and are doing better in school and in their everyday lives than ever before. My husband and I have (out of curiosity) gone through the steps to find out officially if we have ADHD also, and come to find out, we both have ADHD also! Should we get treatment and meds. also? My husband struggles with learning new things at his job and is changing positions soon and is nervous. I struggle because I can literally only handle one thing at a time. For example, I simply can not pay attention to the news if someone is in the room making noise or talking, even quietly. And if I miss something that I needed to hear because someone was talking, I get very frustrated! My husband and I experience the same like if we go to a meeting that we really want to pay attention to we simply can not ignore the unimportant chatter and rucus in the room no matter how hard we try, the next thing we know, we have no idea what the meeting was about. Though this is very difficult to deal with, I don't want our family judged because we would be a family where most of us are on drugs for psych. issues...
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Interesting problem. I have the same problem but because I have a hearing loss. My sister has ADHD bigtime and managed to get through University graduating at the top of her class (went back to school at 50 years old) without meds butis generally cranky and yells at my son iwhen he adds something to the conversation. I wouldn't bother with the meds, personally at this point. Lots of people take a while to learn a new job. Your husband could try it and see if it helps but it may have nothing to do with ADHD. Some people have a "linier" personality which learns things one at a time step by step. Other people learn nothing for a couple of months and then suddenly they know everything. That's called a "holistic" personality. Things are being learned but unconsciously then bang! suddenly you know everything. Einstein was linier, Tesla was holistic. (he invented sound waves) Anyway it's up to you
Hugs,
Heidi
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It is not easy to know what to do. Talk to you doctor and try med to see if it help. I can only do one think at a time. If I try to more I get lost. It take a long time for me to learn anything. When you go to new job try to find info like meno about the job and take lots of notes. Maybe someone will gave you notes they have. I have dylexia so spell like a 7 year old could not take notes. I look to see notes or ask. Sometime there is help. Let me know what happen I am thinking about you and went everthing to go well.
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I think you take better care of your children when you take care of you. I have bipolar two, Fibro, and now, my oldest, and middle children have these issues. Does that make us bad? I don't think so. It makes us a family with central nervous system disfunctions. That has nothing to do with the CHARACTER of our family. It doesn't yours either, dear. Don't waste time caring what others think, most times, they only think of themselves anyways. If it is bothering you and hubby, then by all means it's time to discuss options with the doc. Take care of you.
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Do not let what other people think get to you. Your family has been ok up till now and now you have a lable to attach to yourselves. It is how you deal with what you have that will make you a winner or a looser not that you have a lable.
you must be doing something right - raising kids with ADHD! - dont be so tough on yourselves. Oh yeah and dont let into your heart what others think about you! - fuck them! - Its your life! - you are the best person to know you so just try and take each moment at a time, each day at a time, and take it easy! Sparky!
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ps if meds will help you.....then take the damn things! You dont HAVE to tell people you take them!
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It is good to hear from you and aboue the famliy. Somethings are workimg out for the better. I hope you can all live together and help each other. I know time are not good. I happy to know the children are doing well in school and meds are working for the family. May every day get better and better.
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