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Open Codependency

I was raised by a co-dependent father and-rage-aholic mother. We always needed to be careful of mom's feelings

Treatments

12 Step Program Somewhat Helpful

Currently attending Debtors Anonymous and joined an on-line group to support me when my job causes me to miss local face to face meetings

CoDA Not Working

My last husband ran off with a woman from this group before I divirced him

Music Working / Worked

Depends on the type of music and the season

Pets Working / Worked

Sometimes helps--I have a loving Golden Retreiver

Reading Working / Worked

As an escape--but doesn't resolve the problems

Talking Working / Worked

Always helps--but few people willing to listen

\"Codependent No More\" Somewhat Helpful

Probably need to re-read--it's still on my shelf

Open Breakups & Divorce

I have been married 4 times: 1st marriage lasted 6 years-husbanda drug addict with alcoholic parents, 2nd marriage-6 months-husband-a drug addict/Viet Nam era vet with jealousy issues marriage; 3rd marriage to childhood sweetheart-lasted 11 years-co-dependent mama's boy; 4th marriage-currently still in it with a Dry drunk and practicing drug addict with credit/debting issues

Treatments

Couples Counseling Somewhat Helpful

I am often willing to do the work and make the changes--they are not

Family Therapy Somewhat Helpful

Again, I am often willing to do the work and make the changes and they are not

Forgiveness Not Working

I forgive too easily and wind up with things thrown back in my face

Leave Working / Worked

Sometimes helps

Love Working / Worked

I have had 2 extramarital affairs

Music Working / Worked

Depends on the music and my mood

Pets Working / Worked

My Golden Retreiver(s) have often been my only source of support

Psychotherapy Working / Worked

I guess it helped

Reading Working / Worked

But is more often just a form of distraction/isolation

Support from Friends & Family Somewhat Helpful

Feww willing to listen anymore

Support Groups Working / Worked

Often cannot make meetings because of my variable working hours--some on-line groups have helped in this area

Talking Working / Worked

Usually helps

Open Menopause

Surgical menopause in 1999 for fibroid tumor. Have had terrible mood swings and hot flashes.

Treatments

Black Cohosh Working / Worked

In conjunction with other herbs, but couldn't keep up with the price

Estradiol Working / Worked

Developed a pulmonary embolism--so I can't take hormones anymore

Estrogen Cream Working / Worked

Developed a pulmonary embolism--so I can't take hormones anymore

Estrogen Patch Working / Worked

Developed a pulmonary embolism--so I can't take hormones anymore

Estroven Working / Worked

Developed a pulmonary embolism--so I can't take hormones anymore

Evening Primrose Oil Somewhat Helpful

Can't afford to keep buying this

Neurontin Working / Worked

No health insurance--cannot afford--helped me with insomnia and leg cramps, too

Premarin Working / Worked

Developed a pulmonary embolism--so I can't take hormones anymore

Prempro Working / Worked

Developed a pulmonary embolism--so I can't take hormones anymore

Progesterone Working / Worked

Developed a pulmonary embolism--so I can't take hormones anymore

Progesterone Cream Working / Worked

Too expensive to keep buying-and not reliable percentages in cream

Provera Working / Worked

Developed a pulmonary embolism--so I can't take hormones anymore

Open Mortgages & Foreclosures

Have re-mortgaged 3 times in past to pay off husband's credit card debt...current loan is 4% fixed and I haven't been able to beat that. I am a vet and still have not used my VA home loan--but they want 5% fixed--and I want to get throough the divorce before I refinance.

Open Seasonal Affective Disorder

My symptoms have worsened as I have gotten older...last year I went to work, returned home, watched TV in my room--isolated from family--and went to sleep--repeating pattern til March

Open Caregivers

When born, I was supoosed to be a "boy"..my mother took to her bed and let my oldest sister raise me..my mother was a rage-a-holic..we tip-toed around not wanting to wake her when she was sleeping..dad was a co-dependent..so grew up as a caregiver--add to this that I am 5th generation in the medical field.

Open Financial Challenges

Married to a man who ran up Credit cards and bank loans to the point of $52,000. 2001 I re-mortgaged for the 3rd timeto bail his - out. Refused to bail h/out 4th time (Sept 07)and now all the creditors are coming after ME. He doesn't have a job. BTW had him sign written agreement after 3rd re-mortgage. We agreed to tell each other abt. applying/obtaining new credit cards/unsecured debt. In community property state--HIS debt is MY debt, whether I knew he accrud it or not and note is no good.

Treatments

Budgeting Working / Worked

Still trying to figure this out--used to have a great bugeting system years ago--set up by a company called IDEAL--now out of business

Credit Counseling Working / Worked

Have done this twice in the past. My husband has us so far in debt now--they won't even consider our application

Cut Up Credit Cards Working / Worked

This is not a problem for me..since 2001, I have had only 1 creit card--alwys paid MORE than the minimum and had it nearly paid off in Aug 07...

Debt Consolidation Working / Worked

Have done this twice in the past. My husband has us so far in debt now--they won't even consider our application

Earn Money Working / Worked

What a novel concept!!! I just don't have the energy to take on a 2nd job..but at least 1 income keeps a roof over my head, the electric and phone on.

Holding a Garage Sale Considering

I have a storage area full of stuff...don't know it's worth..need to go through it this spring..someone suggetsed Craigs List os easier than E-bay--any thoughts?

Open Career Changes

I have been a Registered Nurse since 1980...I am really disappointed in the way medicine/nursing have gone over the years..feel like nurses are being hung out to dry at the expense of poor patient care and greedy insurance companies.

Open Child Support & Custody

I am in a 2nd marriage where my husband fathered a child 1-2 years before the marriage. He was unaware of this child until she appled for Welfare-- The woman involved named 3 other men for paternity testing before naming my husband--obvoiusly, she didn't even know who the father was!!! Now 13 years after this child is born, WE become responsible...this has adversely affected our marriage and our credit...Please--only go after what is fair.

Treatments

Psychotherapy Not Working

Open Family Issues

My mother was a rage-a-holic, prescription drug addict, my father/sisters/self were Codependents--I have chosen dysfunctional men to date/marry--no physical abuse in my past but lots of verbal/emotional/psychological abuse in past and current.

Treatments

Family Therapy Working / Worked

Lots of this with different counselors and 1 inpatient stay

Music Working / Worked

Often helps, if I start music therapy early enough--at onset of depression/issues

Psychotherapy Working / Worked

Can't afford it anymore--no insurance

Talking Working / Worked

Really helps and this is why I am reaching out to this group

Writing Working / Worked

I just lack the discipline to do this--but may give it a try again.

Open Fitness Goals
Type: Maintain a workout schedule

I have gone through periods of exercising, then get distracted and stop--seems to be an on again, off again thing for me...longest I've stuck to a routine (lately) is 3-6 months..S.O. says no need to join a gym, just work out at home--but I don't feel as motivated by myself.

Treatments

Hiking Working / Worked

Love to--but leed to find a local friend to go with (Western Washington State).

LA Weight Loss Working / Worked

Was a counselor for them once-when it was called Weight Loss Clinic

Martial Arts Considering

Pilates Considering

Running Working / Worked

Since menopause--the booba are a problem--went to using 3 bras

Slim-Fast Somewhat Helpful

Strength Training Working / Worked

But requires gym membership

Swimming Working / Worked

Requires a swimmming pool or membership to one--also makes my hair really brittle now that I am older.

Weight Training Working / Worked

But requires gym membership

Weight Watchers Not Working

Open Healthy Eating

I have been a health nut all my life--very health oreitned even as a child--read all the Adele Davis books (dating myself here) before/during/after pregnancy. Have maintained a fairly healthy eating style. Raising my own beef for 12 years.

Treatments

Organic Diet Working / Worked

Though not 100% organic

Physical Exercise Working / Worked

Need encouragment to stick with this so I joined the fitness group here, too.

Open Painful Intercourse

I have devloped this issue over the past 1-2 years--likely secondary to a man who is so self centered that none of my needs were being met--in fact he has been verbally and emotionally abuse--yet thinks it's all "MY" problem

Open Shopping Addiction

I "self-medicate" with shopping whnever I am angry, frustrated, depressed, or lonely. I joined a local DA group 2 months ago--it is helpful.

Treatments

Group Therapy Working / Worked

Debtors Anonymous

Talking Working / Worked