Bittersweet Month of April
April 15, 2009 12:02pm
This month is the birth month of my grandson Jonah. He was born April 12th eleven years ago . I remember the day as my son was so excited to announce …
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About Me
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About Me
I am a retired RN from New York. I am married with 9 children but 2 died as young adults in US. Thier survivng siblings are all married with children except one. My strong faith in Christ has been a guiding force in my life not only during the pleasnt times but more so during the difficult times. I claim to be a survivor of hard times rather than a victim. I believe that we all have a God-given purpose in our lives. It is up to us to find out what it is and pursue it with excellence God's help.
I am a retired RN from New York. I am married with 9 children but 2 died as young adults in US. Thier survivng siblings are all married with children except one. My strong faith in Christ has been a guiding force in my life not only during the pleasnt times but more so during the difficult times. I claim to be a survivor of hard times rather than a victim. I believe that we all have a God-given purpose in our lives. It is up to us to find out what it is and pursue it with excellence God's help.
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Encouraging the surviving Twin sister --Diva
September 19, 2008 1:50pm
They say twins have special affinity with each other. They added ,they are one diviided into two. When Dina died, I was priveleged to meet with …
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Reflections on 9/11
September 12, 2008 12:22pm
Yesterday was a nostalgic day as i saw the replay of 9/11 on TV. I was in my home in Queens, New York City at the time. It goes without saying, I …
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Dina's 43rd Birthday
September 10, 2008 5:41pm
My precious daughter, Dina died 1987 in a car accident, a month short from her birthday. She was 21 and about to graduate in college. This Sept. …
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My choice to face the anniversary of Dina, my daughter who is now with the Lord
August 21, 2008 12:26pm
Dina died on Aug.23rd eleven years ago in a tragic car accident. Each year as the anniversary apporaches, a part of me dies and another …
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DINA!!!! Hugs, Ann
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Sending you a little hug. I hope Dina's birthday is filled with happy memories of good times.
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Little Love
Hugging you close on this very special day, may all your memories of Dina bring you some comfort today & always. Hugs,Ann
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sending big hugs, and lots og strength on this day. luv and hugs-Lauri
Prayer
Sending you warm wishes and hearfelt prayers as we remeber your angel date.
Much love, Pat
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Close Bereavement
Type: Loss of a ChildI have a daughter, named Dina aged 21 who died in a car accident 1987. My son, Jun aged 36 died at Camp Lejune, North Carolina while on active duty with the Navy in 2001. He left a wife and three children ,ages 17. 13 and 3. Their deaths have left a big void in kour lives. Each of the family members coped differently from each other. But we were able through God's grace, stay together as a family and learned to live with the pain of their absence. My desire after going throug to help others .
Treatments
- Crying Working / Worked
- Crying can release some of the bottled pain. It is very therapeutic.
- Grief Counseling Working / Worked
- I was fortunate to be included at Dr. Elizabeth Kubler Ross's workshop in Virginia few months after the death of my daaughter. I was able to understand and experience the different stages of grieving.I was given all the opportunities to express all the emotions in a nonjudgmental environment.
- Helping Others Working / Worked
- I started a bereavement support group at the church where I used to attend. I voluntered at hospice settings and during 9/11 I helped with the American Red Cross. As I helped others, it helped me too.
- Music Working / Worked
- Music is soothing to the soul. When I sing, especially songs of hope and God's promise for those who love Him, it comforts me and gives me, comfort, joy and peace .It is also a form of prayer for me.
- Prayer Working / Worked
- There's only one place of solace to go when there's no more place to hid, when I was all broken up and needed healing spiritually. I found prayer very comforting. avenues barriers
- Reading Working / Worked
- I read all the books I could get hold of regardding grief,bereavement and surviving.It helped me understand more the dynamics of grief and how ot cope. Also how to understand and help others go through the grief journey.
- Remembering Working / Worked
- I find journaling to be positive. I pour out my emotions in writing. I encouraged other members of the family to do the same. On my children's birthdays and /or anniversaries, I write pleasant memories. I also kept memory boxes for them. Their pictures are hung in my house as well as their sibling houses. We talked about them a lot.
- Scrapbooking Working / Worked
- Just like journaling, I put pictures, letters about them, little knick-knacks they have in scrap books. These keeps their memories alive and their lives valued. reminded
- Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
- People who know how to listen and just be present in times of sorrow and discouragment helped a lot. They offered to clean the house, shopping or just being available in time of need.
- Support Groups Working / Worked
- I have attended the Compassionate Friends as well as the Griefshare groups. They do help as I was in a safe environment where people understand each other because they are on the 'same boat."
- Talking Working / Worked
- Talking about the loss,the pain, the multitude of emotions cramped on me at the same time helped.
