My husband and I are very discouraged, …
My husband and I are very discouraged, but we keep praying that it (getting preg.) will happen. I haven't really been …
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Shanny2007 
3:02pm Thursday
Hi Ladies! I just wanted to give a quick update on my new life. Whew.. life with a newborn is interesting! :)
In all honesty, I don't think I was fully prepared for life at home with a newborn after delivery. I had always been so focused on getting pregnant and carrying the baby to term that I never really thought about what would happen once she was actually here. You are all my friends and I am not going to lie, the first couple of weeks were tough! I was pretty sore from my stitches and on pain killers, the lack of sleep was just crazy and the emotional part.. wow.. the change in hormones is no joke! I was just a bit of a mess at first. I guess I thought it would just be wonderful bliss (which it really is), so I wasn't prepared for the hard stuff. It was a lot of work but 100% TOTALLY worth it! I had my moments, that is for sure! I just wanted to be honest with you guys about this part because I don't think enough people talk about it and I was totally caught off guard. Don't get me wrong, I was still so happy to have her, I just wasn't prepared for how crazy I would feel those first couple of weeks and I want you girls to know how it could be!
I am so much better now. I am totally adjusted to life on a couple of hours of sleep, I am pretty much healed up (still bleeding though, 4 weeks later, seriously), and my hormones/emotions are back in check. Sophia and I have started to get into a nice routine and I just love being her mom. She is the most precious thing in the world and I am filled with amazement and gratitude as I sit her typing this watching her sleep.
She is already growing and changing so much. It is crazy to watch her develop new skills every day. She smiles alot, it is probably gas, but I still think it is the most adorable thing in the world. She is a grunter, it is hilarious. She grunts in her sleep all the time and when she gets angry man she has some pipes. I have a feeling she is going to be a loud one. We are going to the doctor for a weight check tomorrow so I am totally interested in how much she weighs now.
I hope this entry finds you all doing well! Special shout out to Lara... good luck tomorrow!!!
Big Hugs!
Shanny
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Thanks for the reality check. It is so hard to imagine what it will be like. I try but... I think with twins I will be a mess for awhile but at so point I hope to get back to normal. You daughter is beautiful.
tgirl26
I can only imagine how hard it is...you are so right we spend so much time getting pregnant who actually thinks about what it is like! I am sure you are a wonderful mom. Sophia is beautiful! Thanks for the shout out! :)
laraM
I am so glad that you wrote this! I think you are absolutely right, we spend so much time focusing on getting pregnant, then we focus on staying pregnant, that we sometimes aren't fully prepared for the parts that no one talks about afterward. It sounds like you are both doing well, though, and that's the most important part! :)
Jenn17
I never say it because I have never actually been through it myself and I don't want to scare anyone. But, I witnessed it first hand with my BF. She too believed she would have the baby and it would be bliss. Well, she was in for a horrible awakening! Of course having the baby was amazing! But she had an easy time getting pregnant, easy pregnancy and easy delivery. So when the sleepless nights and days along with the sudden hormone craziness and an unwilling baby to breastfeed all got together it was a mess! The first month was by far the hardest. I think of that time as "the black out" since you don't really know if you are coming or going. After the third month it seems to get a lot smoother. I was on the phone with BF as she sobbed her pretty eyes out every single day the first month. I would go over there on my lunch breaks and then after work. It was so sad but so completely normal. I think most women do not expect it the first time around.
But, you made it through "the black out" period and now can move forward! ;-) I can't wait to hear how big Miss Sophia has gotten after her appointment today.
Lioness816
Girl, I totally know where you are coming from. THe first 2 months are the hardest ever!!!! However I can tell you that it does get better. Hayden is now 6 months and sleeps through the night and is on a good schedule. You will get sleep again I promise. DH and I laughed yesterday that we made it through the first 6 months without killing each other so that was a good thing.
mrsolsenk12
I have always heard that the first six weeks are the toughest--and then the first real smile happens, sleeping gets a little more predictable, the routine is more settled and life suddenly gets very good! So glad to hear everything is moving in the right direction :)
AshleyPenelope
Oh, yeah. I saw my sister go through it! She'd call my mom (or me) to come over so she could take a walk or take a nap - just to get out for a minute to regroup. It's not all fun and games. Babies cry and they can't tell you what they want or need. I see how it can be frustrating in a "I want to help you but I don't know what you need" way. I'm glad things are calming down and you are settling into a routine!
JudylynS
I understand where you're coming from! Those first few weeks are the hardest, even though it's worth every minute. I found right around 5 or 6 weeks everything got better.
Aren't the noises they make in their sleep so funny? Collin did that a lot when he was little, but by the time he was a few months old he didn't do it anymore. About a month ago he discovered he likes to scream as loud as he can and then laugh...lol. Keep enjoying your baby girl!
Jen2279
I am glad you shared your experience.... My baby is 5 1/2 weeks old now and I was blindsided by how hard it has been after wanting to get pregnant for so long and then having such an easy pregnancy.... I have never cried so much in my life and been so emotional. You are just so out of it--I lost my wallet last week and burned a utensil on the stove last night. I am exhausted and the hormones are out of control--and this is from someone who's never had PMS, never been depressed and never dreamed she would suffer from postpartum depression...but it does happen. I have joined a support group and started to see a therapist, which is really helpful. But in a way I feel like postpartum depression is the new dirty secret people don't talk about, just like fertility issues. I try to remember it's not my fault, just like the fertility stuff, and want to be open about it so others know they're not alone. I love my baby and things are getting easier and I"m bonding with him more and more now but no one told me just how tough it could be when you bring him home and you think it's just going to be magical and you're just going to be full of love, etc. The group leader for the support group I'm in said doing IVF is a risk factor for postpartum depression b/c your expectations are so high and the investment so great. So just know that if it does happen to you, you aren't the only one and there is help out there. Good luck with your little one, Shanny, and glad you are feeling better!
LissaHurch
Thank you all for sharing your stories, Shanny you are an angel for your honesty.... I feel so much better, scared out of my mind, but better knowing that some of my fears are real, but normal....
klimawife
YOu speak the truth. The first few months are still a blur for me. It is all about survival those first few weeks. However, the best is yet to come. It gets more amazing everyday!!
Jenelle8
Im glad you are honest and speak the truth...things can be tough! I am so glad you have this wonderful miracle in your life, Sophia is just beautiful..you have a lifetime of precious moments to come. xoxo
bcgradgirl
So happy to hear your feelings are in check. It's a big change. But there's nothing more rewarding than being a mother! XOXO
MrsStacy
I appreciate your honesty and am glad that you "put it out there" like you did. Your daughter's pics are adorable!
YvonneKB
THANK YOU FOR WRITING THIS AND BEING HONEST!!!! i have felt te same way and was too embarrased to admit it.
hnelson