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Shanny2007 
2:34pm Yesterday
Hi ladies.. I am confused! One day I am 100% sure I am done with fertility treatments and that my heart is telling me that adoption is the right thing. The next day I am hoping that I can get another chance with my eggs or that my sister donates her eggs to me because I so long to be pregnant. I just don't know what to do.. I don't know what is right.
I know that no one can tell me what the right answer is... I am just so back and forth right now. I want to do the right thing, I want to fullfill my plan..
If any of you can predict the future out there - what is the right answer? 
Jeff and I are going to his parent's house in Iowa this weekend so I am may not be around much.. Have a great weekend!
PS - Today my nephew is 2 years old. I have posted his latest picture!
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It's understandable you're back and forth and just want to make the right decision. I wish I could predict for you! If you still feel that you long to be pregnant, then maybe still give that a chance, then you'll never wonder in the long run should you have tried one more time. Do what really feels like the right thing in your heart. Have fun in Iowa this weekend!
Jen2279
I agree with Jen. If you want to be pregnant I think you should exhaust your options there. Is there a way to start looking into adoption as you are pursuing your fertility treatments? Maybe just look into it on the side...not full force. I think that is what I would do. Hope that helps! Have a great, great weekend!
laraM
It’s understandable that you’d be back and forth, you have some tough decisions to make and it’ll take a little time before you’re ready to move on, but when you are there wouldn’t be the back and forth, you’ll know what the answer is. You have a good heart and I know it’ll lead you in the right direction, it’s just right now either of you are ready. Take care of you, try not to be tough on yourself for not knowing.
LoMac
I think it's natural to go back and forth, Lee and I do it all the time. One day we feel like adoption is the logical next step and then the next day we'll toss around the idea of donor eggs if this IVF doesn't work. It's so hard, but hopefully when the decision feels right you will just know and a peace will come into your heart. I'm sorry things are not easy right now.
AshleyPenelope
I think its natural to go back and forth as well. I frequently feel the same way. I personally would see what your sister says and hopefully that may help you make your decision. I would start looking at adoption agencies as well so when you feel comfortable making a decision, you will have all of your ducks in a row, so to speak. Hope you have fun this weekend and we will definitely catch up when you get back. Take care of yourself. xoxo
bcgradgirl
This journey is so crazy and confusing isn't it? If you really want to experience pregnancy then exhaust all options first. I know many women on here who had successful pregnancies with donor eggs. If I were you I may start the adoption process (because it can be involved and lengthy) while underegoing your treatments. If the treatments work out great. If they don't then you have already started te adoption process. Good luck in whatever you decide. I am praying for you sweetie!!
Jenelle8
Shannon..I agree with Jenelle, explore both options (sounds exhausting just writing that), and you will have adoption as your back-up if the donor egg situation doesn't work out. You are too hard on yourself. You are experiencing emotions that all of us would go through. Any thoughts on taking the rest of the year off and starting fresh in the new year? I can't tell you how much better I feel in doing this. Taking time for me...for my DH...for US. NO RE appts, no hours on the internet exploring my options. I feel so free! You just hang in there and know that we are here for you! I hope you have fun in Iowa. I don't know much about Iowa, but it sounds like you may be out on a range, riding a horse...driving cattle or something. Now I would love to see a picture of that!!!
Love you! XXOO Mimi
Mimi75
Your nephew is adorable!I feel ya on the going back and forth thing......OH I am so there.You will know what to do when the time is right.Sounds so silly and easy (it is not).Adoption is the answer for me.I can't count on fertility for the rest of my life and not get something in between!If I ever get pregnant again it will be a plus for me:)That is how I am looking at it.As for you....I think you should do both, if your sister will donate to you.You could possibly get the best of both worlds... and that would be so cool.Don't give up on getting pregnant ever.....just adopt a babe in between trying.You will reach your goal regaurdless...to be a mommy.Your baby WILL find you.
shelleybee
It's only natural that you would be back and forth like you are. It's a huge life altering decision that you can't make over night and it sounds like there are still a few options that need to be explored further. Don't rush into anything just yet or feel like you have to make a decision right away. Take your time and when the time is right you will just know what to do in your heart. I just know it will work out for you, and no matter which path you take, it will be sooooo amazing and wonderful xxx
joanne33
That is the cutest photo.
joanne33
I know how you feel about adoption. One day I want to start the process & the next I'm too afraid or something. I want to be completely at ease with the decision & I'm still not quite there....I'm praying for you. :) Big hugs!!!
melissaas
Hope you can find some peace & make the decision that is right for you!
dulcylee
All I can say is...I hear ya! I wish the same thing all the time. Good luck w/ your decision. If you want my opinion, I say try every option you have to get pregnant, but set a limit. Maybe in tries or years, then if it doesnt work, adoption is a wonderful choice. Your child might be out there, just waiting for you to love him or her. The right answer will come to you b/c your life is already planned you just have to have faith that things will work out the way they are meant to be.
LaureNJ