tired. very very tired. I --ed …
tired. very very tired. I fucked up so bad last night. I went out with my mate karl. his friend gary then came out for …
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Just had my son on the phone, he was in a dreadful state,this is the one who has Paul full time,and doesnt get any money, I think you know that his ex is still getting it from him, its going to take months to sort out, he tells me hes worked this week for nothing as its all gone out again.
He has just had one of his neighbours at the door,(apparantly he is a trouble causer and doesnt like children) he said Paul and some other boys were throwing stones at his car and now it is scratched. It is an old car which was scratched anyway, and Paul says they wernt throwing anything but they were playing in the area. The bloke came to Karls house throwing himself around and shouting and generally being abusive, Karl told him to go away and come back when he could be reasonable then he would talk to him,he said he wouldnt do that and tried to barge into the house,my son managed to keep him out and now he is going to get the police!!
Karl is feeling very down at the moment because he tells me that Paul isnt taking any notice of anything he tells him,he seems to be running rings round him, I think its because Paul knows that living with his Dad is much better than with his Mum and because he knows how much Karl will fight for him he is just walking all over him.He is a lovely boy and a real credit to his Dad,hes lovely to take out,very polite and gentle but I think that because Karl loves him so much and always fights his corner as far as his Mum is concerned he just is pushing too far,all Karl wants is for his son to be happy and I think Paul knows that and is trying to push things too far.
His Mum wont have him at all during the week, even if Karl wants to go out,she has told him he can go for a whole weekend but theres no way she will babysit for him. Paul absolutely refuses to go for the weekend, he just wants to go for a couple of hours,but she just wont let him do that.If he goes for the weekend all he does is look after the 2 year old while she stays in bed,he doesnt even get fed and he has to feed his sister as well.
I think Karl has calmed down a little bit but he seems very down,Paul is now supposed to be tidying his room, and Karl has said he has to give him some help in the house as all he is doing is running around after Paul,taking him to the childminder before work then picking him up after work then doing housework and meals etc.., and getting nothing back from Paul, I think he needs some ground rules etc.,
On a lighter note, we had a good day today, Lucy came with us as well to the pictures and they both enjoyed it,it was ok but just a kids film really.Maybe I make things worse because I suppose I do spoil them, but thats what I thought Grandmas did. I hope its just a phase hes going through.
Sorry about the rant, and thanks for reading it. It helps to get things down and out of your head.
Love to you all, and thank you for being there.
Hugs. xxx
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it sounds like your son is really having a hard time right now , i hope things work out for him . i hope the neighbor doesn't cause any more problems for him , he sounds like he could get nasty . its good that your son called the cops . well it was a busy day for you .lol hope you can relax some later . love you xoxoxxox lizzy
dizzylizzie
Oh Yes, Paul is keen and knows exactly how to play the cards to his advantage. I think Karl needs to set the ground rules and he needs to have regular chores to do. Then he gets rewards. That is life...I know everyone is spoiling him due to the situation, but that can also get out of hand. I don't think you are doing that, however I do think Karl May be doing it. It is good that you had a great time out again. It is good for you. I can't believe that crazy neighbor, did the police ever need to be called? I hope Karl does change things...He needs to be a Dad who also guides his son in the right direction in life....Love U
LeeAnn
of course thats what grans do. nothing wrong in taking them to the pics Daphne. i really sympathise with karl he must be feeling so awful. his ex sounds like a pretty awful woman. karl is going to have to set some rules for paul,sooner rather than later, i worship the ground my son walks on and sppoiled him too much when he was young letting him get away with things i shouldnt and we are both suffering the consequences now, i realise now that he wold have been happier and more adjusted if i had been more of a parent and less of a friend. no harm in being both but someones gotta be in charge. its difficult when there ar two sets of house holds (his and hers) with different rules and influences. allyou can do is keep doing what you are doing and being a good gran so that he has one constant to relate to. venting is good!!!!! stops our heads exploding hun. x
wistfl
I would love to spoil my Grandbabies right now...I know they need it. Your son is strong and he will be ok. They get that from their moms you know LOL. Kids will take advantage if they think they can pull one over on us!! We just have to, like you said, set ground rules for them and don't back down!!
I love your ranting lol you go girl!!
Much Love And Hugs, :)Sue
Suestew