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Almost divorced, he cheated....twice, and facing some new challenges for myself. I am a single mom of two kids. I just closed my 49 child day care center and am re entering radiology. I am dating a man and still adjusting to someone new in our lives.
Almost divorced, he cheated....twice, and facing some new challenges for myself. I am a single mom of two kids. I just closed my 49 child day care center and am re entering radiology. I am dating a man and still adjusting to someone new in our lives.
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saw your post... I am also in a different relationship now and he does live here my older one (17) looks at him as being more of a father than her dad - the younger one (14) - well D and her don't really get along. I really think age has ALOT to do with it. My younger one is very defiant in a passive agressive way (just like her dad) and D can do nothing to get through and none of us in the house (me, bf or eldest) can do anything right for the younger one. If ya ever want to chat, need to vent feel free to kick me a mail - can't say I can helkp but if I've gone through something similar I can tell ya how I dealt - GL and follow your heart.
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Hello -- Somehow I don't think your new romance should be living with you and your children, even if he's like a roommate and in spite of his injury. It's just not - if I may say so - good parental modeling and it's the wrong message for your kids to receive. While I'm sorry that you and their father are no longer together, it is good to know that he does keep contact with them. How old are your children by the way? Granted, help with the bills is always welcomed, and having a warm body nearby is not easy to resist. But ... your personal happiness and fulfillment has to wait because you have two children to raise and their needs and fulfillment come first. They need now more than ever daily examples of right and wrong behavior and very careful attention in every aspect of their lives. They should never have to feel they are competing for this care and attention with their mother's live-in boyfriend. A mature, self reliant man should be able to take care of his own medical needs and in no way be reliant on a vulnerable, struggling mother of two. Surely, you being the primary caretaker, must have at some level, an awareness and appreciation for this very impressionable and critical stage of development your kids are in. Pay attention, because your kids are definitely paying attention. I am curious though: Is he so badly injured that he is incapable of caring for himself? How were you managing before he moved in? Probably with some difficulty. But when the going gets rough, the very tough get going and your kids deserve nothing less. Ask yourself the following: How has he bettered my present and future well-being? Are his intentions honorable in terms of marriage. It wouldn't surprise me though, if you are making his life more comfortable than he is making yours. For their sake and your own, choose the moral high ground. Let them know that you take them and your parental duties seriously and are there to give them - with daily patience - unconditional, undivided love, guidance, care and all the support they need. You can do this! I know you are a caring and loving mother based on what your post said. So, if at all possible, don't muddy up the waters by having your new love interest live-in with you. Your daughter's discontent should tell you something - that this picture just is not right. In closing, your answers to the above questions will lead you to a rational and responsible decision. I wish you and the children the best of luck.
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Close Breakups & Divorce
We were together for 20 years, married for 15. 2 beatiful kids and he cheated...twice. I knew of neither until he told me. He told me that I am unattractive and couldn't turn a guy on. I am passing thru the abyss of divorce symptoms with a wonderful friend in the exact same situation. The think that I have the hardest time dealing with is letting my kids go to his "woman's" house. I don't want them exposed to this immoral situation. I want him to hurt and I want my kids to myself.
Treatments
- Couples Counseling Not Working
- He states he lied the whole time. Didn't work
- Forgiveness Working / Worked
- I forgave the first one, I think.But not the mental abuse he gave me after relesing the info from his conscioussness
- Psychotherapy Somewhat Helpful
- Everything she told me I already knew.Kinda redundant
- Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
- I made a best friend that was also married to a cop who cheated on her at the same time. (The guys were friends)
- Time Working / Worked
- All things fade with time, evidentally. As do feelings of love as well, I guess
Close Parenting Teenagers (12-18)
I have a beautiful 12 year daughter. She is a dancer and has been since she was two. A true gift of dance. She wants to go to Juilliard. She is also a varsity cheerleader, unusual at her age. She has a lot of male attention and I think she is maturing too quickly. She is an "A" student with lots of friends.
Treatments
- Patience Working / Worked
- Isn't Patience,(notice the capital P) necessary when dealing with teens?
Open Parenting 'Tweens (9-12)
I have a 10 year old son. He is a very loving, sometimes smothering, little man. His dad left us 8 months ago,(He is a cheater)and now I am trying to create morales and values in him that his dad obviously doesn't have.He lives with mom and older sister and I worry about not having another nale in the house. Will he become to "feminine"?
Open Healthy Relationships
I am just finishing my divorce from a cheating cop. 20 years together and 15 married. @ kids, 13 yo daughter and 10 yo son. I am now dating a man and the relationship is going well. My kids like him, a very important factor.
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