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suzannelin 
7:57pm Saturday
Yesterday I had THE most amazing experience. I heard my baby's heart beat for the first time. I am still in utter awe that something as simple as a soft, steady rhythmic thumping could be the most beautiful sound I have ever heard in my life.
The OB was nice and although she recommended I try to meet all of the doctor's on staff because whomever is on call when I go into labor will deliver my baby I had a great feeling. She was sensitive to the fact I am a nervous new mom, (MOM!!!) but will neither placate me nor dismiss me.
We did not get to see the baby this time. I do have a few decisions to make. [forgive the rambling] I need to decide if we will do screenings for Down's and Cystic Fibrosis. On one hand it is a really extensive extra chance to see the baby, but on the other do I really want to know the odds of a risk for these? Would it change a thing if my baby were at risk for Down's Syndrome? It could put my mind at ease -- or leave yet another reason to worry. But again I come back to an extensive peek at the baby. Any thoughts???
I also have to decide about work. I haven't officially spoke to Jeff about it, but he knows. I toy with when to put in my 4 weeks notice (yes 4 weeks at my job). I could make a break so I leave over the winter holiday vacation. I could wait until my due date in June and just not renew my contract (yes we have a contract, but THEY can break it at any time). I could go on leave 2 weeks prior to my due date (that's all my doctor will give under a normal pregnancy) and use up ever last second of sick time I have accumulated. I could even wait until February when my husband is due for his annual raise and see how that will add into our budget. If I keep working I will keep making money and that will be nice. With a baby on the way, not to mention the huge bill we amassed in making said baby, it will help. But the stress of everything at my job makes me want out NOW! Any thoughts here???
We have already begun to have the conversation of our second baby! How long to wait before using our tot-cycle...what if that doesn't work. I suggested start back at injectables and then move to donor sperm in a few months. Jeff said he's not comfortable with that and will do IVF again. I'm hoping to get through this pregnancy and let G-d take care of the rest when the time comes.
There is so much going through my mind right now and many things I need to consider. Yesterday was such a monumental day I now feel safe in my pregnancy. I know that once you hear the heartbeat risk drops significantly. I am now free to think about all of this. Well I guess that is enough rambling for now.
I hope that all of my friends who have not yet come to experience this joy will soon hear their own baby's heart beating and those who have to love every second of it.
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Congratulations on listening the baby's heartbeat!! It is the most amazing, comforting thing!! I am glad you liked your OB's, and it's true, if it is a practice, you might want to get familiar with all of them because you never know who will deliver. On the testing for Down's, I have to say that although those questions popped in my head (what ifs - would it change anything - etc.). My major concern was the risk of miscarriage (which is truly minimal but you do have to consider it). So in the end I opted for the less invasive testing, which will basically give you a 'ball park figure'… and then you can decide if you want to do CVS or amnio.
As far as working - being on bed rest for a while at the beginning of the pregnancy, gave me a different perspective on being at home while pregnant; and while ultimately the decision is yours; I will tell you this: Being at home made all my symptoms increase by the miles. Being at work, while sometimes can be uncomfortable and stressfull, at least takes my mind off all the potentially harmful worrisome thoughts that crossed (and cross) my mind constantly while I was at home (I have even noticed that I am more prone to call the doctor with worries over the weekend than during week days).
Maybe, you can set expectations at work, let them know that you will be working, but wont be taking any extra kids, or doing additional activities. I don’t know if its possible, but could you take a more administrative role? Something less stressful? Just some thoughts.
Again, congratulations on this first milestone and I keep wishing you the best and healthiest nine months ever!
aecollins
It is definitely a wonderful sound to hear!!! Regarding the screens...because of a congenital heart defect on Sean's side of the family, I have to do most of the screens...and I have to be honest, it's stressing me a bit. It's just one more thing to worry about...and for us, knowing won't change a thing...we will still love our baby no matter what. Right now I am not sure how I am going to handle my job...I would like to take off as much time as possible but it will all depend on how the rest of the pregnancy goes. That being said, just take everything one day at a time...you'll know when the time is right for baby #2.
Glad to hear that everything is going well with your health and the baby!!!
Jenn17
How amazing!! You have waited a long time for this special day, congrats!! You are in my thoughts always! xoxo
bcgradgirl
congratulations on hearing that wonderful sound. I hope to join you in a couple of weeks.
parothead
I am so happy you got to hear your baby! It is truly amazing. KYIMP.
ali2ant
That's wonderful!! We did the test on Dylan, and they told us he was risk for having Down Syndrome, he had a 1:83 ratio, but he came out fine. I worried about it for awhile, but I personally wouldn't have changed a thing if he had Down Syndrome other than try to prepare myself how to care for him. Good Luck!!! You are in my thoughts and prayers.
MandaMc9336
SO glad you heard that wonderful sound. Hope you get to see him/her very soon. You are in my thoughts, enjoy each and every moment.
jay29
Congrats on hearing your baby's heartbeat, I remember hearing my babies heartbeats for the first time and I screamed "oh my Gosh thats a heartbeat!" It was so wonderful seeing as we have been through so much to get here. As far as the testing I decided against it. First of all because no matter what the out come was I would love my children no matter what, second of all they say its not always accurate and third of all there is a slight chance it could cause miscarriage. I didn't want to risk it after going through so much. But its your choice and whatever you chose is the right choice. As far as work I have been at home since about 5 weeks pregnant and I will tell you with as sick as I have been there is no way I would have made it at work. I am going to try to stay off th whole way through only cause i am am my feet all day and have to lift boxes and i dont want to put my babies at risk. Good luck with everything I am so happy for you.
smightrad23
I can only imagine how amazing hearing the heartbeat must have been!! So happy for you!!!
fenway24
So happy for you. i hav an appt today but they said it was too early to hear the hb. How far along are you?
baby2010
congrats!!! I heard my baby's heartbeat yesterday too...and wow it is truly something. I am going to do the non invasive down's syndrome test. It only consist of some blood work and an ultrasound. I just would like to know if something possibly is wrong, but that's just me. Glad things are going great for you!!1
Ginger1
I am so so happy for you and hubby!!!I though (was told at re office) that the cystic fibrosis test had to be done before any IVF, (FDA rules..)
Mamamando
Congratulations! You so so deserve to hear that beautiful sound!!!! Yeah!!!
FNP
Congrats! That is so great to hear the heartbeat!
On work--I think you need to consider YOU and what would be best for your family. I know that I have done so much better going through IVF while I am working. It took my mind off it for a while. I tend to worry a lot, and with more free time on my hands, I would spend it all worrying or thinking about stuff. But that is me...
On testing--I'm not doing any invasive tests that pose any kind of risk to the baby. I will do blood tests, but nothing else. We feel that we worked way to hard to get where we are to risk it! Again, that's our opinion...
Good luck with whatever you decide!
ddaw
i'm so happy for you!!!
chely17cs
So happy you got to hear the wonderful sound of your miracle:) Enjoy all the amazing milestones along the way.
CLynMomtoBe