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suzannelin 
7:55am Yesterday
I am PISSED.
I have been really sick the past few weeks. The past week I have been having morning sickness 24-7, up most nights all night. I have only gotten about 2 hours of sleep on average. I have missed some work due to morning sickness (or have needed to leave during the day because of spending 45 minuted huddled over my trash can) and because of the IVF.
Yes, I am sick, but I am trying my darnedest. I am also here by myself because DH is in North Dakota of all places for a few weeks for work. Well, last night I managed to get a full 5 hours of good sleep. I felt much better. I barely had any sickness at all today. (Yes of course I worry is something happening to the babies -- but I am sure sleep has helped the morning sickness)
Anyway, in the middle of the day a supervisor -- not my supervisor, just someone who is parallel to me, decided to "confront" me. She said in the most "supportive" way that my absences are unacceptable and that when I am here I look too sick. She feels I am not doing my job and that it is adversely affecting my children and families. Initially I felt horrible about that. I mean I hate feeling sick and have been so stressed about all of the time I am missing. I feel I am getting done what I need to but all of the extra work I do has to take a back seat, and some things have to wait.
It is a vicious cycle. You are sick, you can't sleep, you stress, you get sicker and still can't sleep and stress more.... I felt like I had finally crawled out of that cycle for a time today, and now I have been pushed back over the edge.
This person KNOWS I am pregnant. She even knows the lengths I have gone. What possible joy could she have gotten from telling me what a bad job I am doing? That was seriously a horribly bitchy thing to do! I am very conscious about the work I do, and I had been chastising myself about not doing all I had wanted or used to do. But some things are more important.
I am going to speak with MY supervisor tomorrow. Perhaps I need to take a leave of absence. I mean if my I am negatively effecting the families I work with so much I shouldn't be there... or more so if this is going to impact me so much then maybe I shouldn't be there!
Forgive the giant rant. She's a bitch and I am hormonal. I do know if something has happened to this pregnancy I will blame the recent stress. I know that is a terrible way of looking at it, but that's what I've got right now. I thought this vent would help me let it go, but it really hasn't. I need to go find something calming and happy to do. Right after I go clean up the humongous pile of cat puke one of my darlings left for me. Can I do it without making my own pile of puke to clean up???
After that little run in today I feel so incredibly grateful to have such amazing supportive women in my life like all of you.
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She had NO right to say that to you. It's not like you can wave a magic wand and get rid of the morning sickness! I'm sure if there was such a magic wand pregnant women would use it! That is incredibly rude though! Vent all you want! That is what we are here for! Have you had an U/S yet? I might have missed it but did you put up pictures? I had my first U/S today and need to go to Wal-mart after work to get them scanned.
Kimiowa1977
Ugh. What a beeyatch! She's not even your supervisor? I hope you told her how rude she was. I wouldn't take a leave of absence because of her words. Ask your supervisor for advice. I think any normal person would support you--not guilt trip you. Don't waste an ounce of stress on her!
colettettc
Oh wow! I cant believe someone would say something like that to you after knowing what you went through. Seriously I want to smack her for you and blame my pregnancy hormones! I have missed work too lately and I get the raised eyebrows but whatever. Ive missed b/c Ive had to for the sake of my babies. They always come first. I think talking with your supervisor would be the best route. xoxo
AmberR
I am so sorry to hear of your experience. People can be so obnoxious. Also I wanted to let you know that it is normal to need to put yourself and your children's health ahead of your job (no matter what you do). I hope you and your supervisor reach an understanding.
awaiting
I would have slapped the shit out of her. Yes, speak to your supervisor. What can they do? Fire you because you are pregnant and sick? That's a lawsuit just waiting to happen if you ask me. I'm sorry you've been feeling crappy and hormonal. Try to stay calm. Keep your eye on the prize! xoxo
JudylynS
Sorry you are having a hard time. Like you said - she is NOT your supervisor, if she has an issue with you and your work she need to discuss it with your supervisor and take her opinionated little self out of your face!!!!
Hope this all lets up soon and thinks can get back on track.
Hugs to you! xoxoxox
Z1977
I am so sorry that you have to go through this. Pay that crazy lady NO MIND!!!! Do what is best for your health and your baby's health.
Ginger1
What a nosey bitch! Talk to your supervisor and flip your coworker off. Try to stay calm, and take care of yourself and the babies!
SissyM
OMG what a b*tch!!! Talk to your supervisor. You can take a leave, or even take intermitten FMLA leave which secures your job for 12 weeks, but you can take a day here or there rather than the full 12 weeks at once. hang in there hun! praying for you and the babies. :)
strength4today
Ok, so I am cursing her with a scorching case of the explosive shits. This time tomorrow she will be blowing her hair out as it explodes up her back! Hang in there, you are half way through the first tri, so things will level out soon!!!!!! Hugs Mama!
twocubed
I would go to my supervisor tell her If she has a problem with you to come to you, let them know that these babies are your first priority and that personally you don't give a shit what they think, that is how I would feel. The babies would be my first priority as I know they are yours and bascally I would let them know that and if they dont like the way you are handling it they can kiss ur ass.... Or keep doing what ur doing if they dont like it they can fire you then you can collect unemployment and sue their butts for firing you b/c u were pregnant.. Do u need me to come slash that ladies tires??? You so don't need this stress
torilynn
I think there is a very large gang of angry women here who will be more than happy to have a few words with her! What a hideous thing of her to say to you. I would absolutely talk to your supervisor about her. That is completely unacceptable behavior on her part. Do whatever you need to do to protect yourself and your babies and pay her no mind! Hang in there!
Jenn17
That is so inappropriate!! Someone who isn't even your direct boss should never have said that to you especially knowing what you had to go through to get here! What a bitch. You don't need that especially right now. I am sure your boss will be more supportive and hopefully give that woman a talking to.
hopefulgal
Girl, you have gone trough so much that another "bitchy step" should not get you down. Vent as much as you want and maybe you should ask for a paper from the dr that you need some time off. IGNORE that woman and think about yourself and that babies of yours. Love u
Mamamando
It is truly disgusting to me how people can be. Try your best to not let it get to you! She is obviously a sad, sad woman who is probably not happy with her own life. I know how hard it is not to stress about work, b/c I certainly have a hard time w/this. But those bab(ies) inside of you are your top priority! I know you will do the best you can to take care of them and do your best to take care of yourself! Good luck!!! Hugs!!!
fenway24
She could have asked if there was anything she could do to help you, since she sees you're not feeling well. Some people have no compassion. I would talk to your own supervisor & maybe consider a leave, even for just a few weeks until you start feeling better. Wishing you all the best!!
LaureNJ
Oh sweetie, I am so sorry someone is making you feel this way! Wow, it seems like you would have a posse that could give her a beat down. You know what she said is inappropriate. I know that you care about the job you do and the families you work with. However, it seems that you have felt the shift, your focus is on your babies, and whatever that means to your job is not as important at this time. I agree with the other ladies here, talk to "your supervisor" find out what she sees & then discuss your options. With all you have given to the families you work with, remember now it is time to put your family first.
Thinking of you! Here if you need anything! Good luck!
Jcurly
Oh honey, I am SO sorry! I have a co-worker/friend going through the same thing right now. It makes me so angry! I am really sorry someone made you feel so bad. I am sure I would feel terrible too b/c doing a good job and not letting people down is important to me, as I am sure it is to you too. BUT, and this is a HUGE BUT, the VERY MOST important thing right now is that baby trying to grow and make their way into this world and you. If a leave of absence is what is needed then that is what you need to do. I really hope that your supervisor is more caring then the other person and maybe can help you come up with a plan so you can still work but maybe with a little less on your plate until you are feeling better. What ever happens just remember what is important. Most people who do not go through what we have, even if they know about it, or anyone who has not gone through a pregnancy where they were VERY sick can never understand. Many women think that since they got through a pregnancy then everyone else should be able to. EVERY pregnancy is different and EVERY woman is different. You take care of you and that baby. We all know you are a hard worker and care about your job, but right now you are going through something you can not control. I will be thinking of you and praying for you my sweet friend! {{{HUG}}}
Lioness816