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Open Breakups & Divorce

i have been in 28 year relationship and now we recently separated and i am overly anxious and depressed over this. she says we may get back together we may not we are in some fincial times and she had been secretly texting and calling another woman execessivy 1026 texis and numourous calls and she says its not cheeting then what is it. she did not tell me this i found the phone bill does someone want to talk. we are seeing a councler. and she wants to wait to see if this will work

Treatments

Couples Counseling Too Soon to Tell

currently seeking.

Forgiveness Somewhat Helpful

i have gotten over the phone she said there was no sex involvement and i want to believe her

Leave Somewhat Helpful

we have recently separated from our 28 year relationship its hard high anxiety

Pets Working / Worked

i have 3 shihtzu's and they help me cope

Reading Somewhat Helpful

i go to the book store and read books about couple issues

Support from Friends & Family Not Working

no contact with family and friends. all alone

Support Groups Considering

where are they

Talking Not Working

she does not want to talk without fighting

Open Financial Challenges

we used to live a good life style being a realtor and an insurance agent. the market fell and so did the insurance business now we are picking up the pieces and working on some changes in our lives we recently separated due to financal problems which caused lots of fighting and name calling now that we have been separated it has been difficult to cope each day the housing market sucks but we are looking for a change in 12-18 months but now i found a new job and working on our separation

Treatments

Budgeting Working / Worked

everyone has to budget or you go into dept and maybe divorce

Credit Counseling Working / Worked

did this several years ago did work learned to pay with cash

Cut Up Credit Cards Working / Worked

this was the best thing we did and the credit counceling helped with getting them all paid

Earn Money Working / Worked

this is the best thing

Filing for Bankruptcy Not Working

never done it got a couple of jobs and just kept paying the credit counceling.

Holding a Garage Sale Working / Worked

done many of these till you run out of stuff to sell

Open Anxiety

me and my girlfriend of 28 years have separated its been almost a month i don't see her often sometimes i talk to her on the phone. she says she is mad at me???? i don't understand. i got a cell phone bill with 1026 texts and 10.5 hours of calls from one woman hard telling e-mails and phone calls from land line and she says she is not fooling around. help

Treatments

Breathing Exercises Working / Worked

keeps down the stress anxiety

Paxil Somewhat Helpful

only 3rd day afraid of gaining weight and no sex drive.

Positive Thinking Working / Worked

gives me hope

Open Sexual Abuse

I have been sexualy abused since the age of 5 by my brother and he also abused my younger brother in the same way till he made me and my younger brother do it in front of him. This went on for a long time and got violent at times. I have told a Doctor and I was not judged. I told my mother when I was 10 and she did not believe me that my brother could do this and nothing was done. I ran away everytime my brother tried when I was a teen and he beat me when I got home. It does help to tell someon.

Treatments

Art Working / Worked

love drawing and painting it helps pass time.

Group Therapy Considering

don't know where any are in my area of phoenix

Leave Working / Worked

ran away everytime he tried it gave me peace

Music Working / Worked

The louder the better. head banging music seems to work out the stress.

Talking Working / Worked

talking to someone you can trust is a good thing it helps cope on the down times of memory

Open Lesbian Relationship Challenges

I am a lesbian in a 28 year relationship we had our up and downs now its really down. we have been separated for 27 days now. she had a secret friend 1026 text and numourous calls to this woman that pre oppopied her from me, i am a realtor as you know the market fell and she blames me now i a looking for work to suppliment the income. trying to cope in this time we never separated ever for the 28 years we have been together. i am confused, sad, angry, scared, and high anxiety. need advise.

Open Codependency

I have just left my councler and she told me I may have Codependency issues. my wife of 28 years we recently separated for her wrong doing. she has this woman she has texed 1026 times in 3 weeks and numurous calls to her. she says there is no sex but i wonder. i worry everynite about her with this woman. she tells me its over but i have a hard time believing her. i worry about her cause she isn't feeling good alergies or something i bought her a bed to sleep in at her sisters while we are separa

Treatments

Music Working / Worked

the louder the better

Pets Working / Worked

i have the dogs and they are comforting

Reading Working / Worked

books on anger, codependsey, and letting go

Talking Working / Worked

i feel like i am boring my friends

\"Codependent No More\" Too Soon to Tell

currently reading the book