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Testycatlady 
10:06am, November 6, 2009
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Some people are just oblivious to how their comments on this sight can be hurtful to others. Either that, or they are just being mean.
I am sick of it. I mentioned to one person, whom at one time I respected, that I found her post to be hurtful, and offencive to those with family members that are Mentally Challenged. I did this in a polite fashion. Not only did she get offended at me for being honest, she refuses to acknowledge that her post could possibly be hurtful, and instead acussed me of being a trouble maker, and doing this to bug her.
I am sick of seing such selfishness amoung certain people on here. And now, not only has her attitude pissed me off, but I am seing others I once respected, posting such disrespectful or nasty threads that I find derogetory, as if they are thumbing their nose at me for being hurt.
I now realize, that if they can be that uncaring and oblivious to the hurt I feel over it, then they are not friends at all. After all, I have been open on this forum about my uncle. I even posted a while back about how I actually look up to him for all his accomplishments. For them to act this way, just cuts me like a knife.
I guess it is time to weed out my friends list.I have already removed one. I am considering removing a few others who are also refusing to acknowledge how this behaviour is hurting me. It will be hard, because they are people I USED to respect, and care about. I however, have lost all respect for them after this.
Hopefuly, I will be able to get over this soon. I don't need this shite at this time. The extra stress is not helping me heal from my surgery.
End of cry.
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I just wish people would stop spreading malice about me, and calling me a liar. They have no clue what I have gone through... yet are so mean to me... and they call themselves Christian? No real Christian I know, would ever behave the way they are... It is all just so sad.
If I do not want to respond to their grilling, can they not use their brains and think for a moment that heck... she just got out of the hospital a while ago, and up from her sick bed, and that maybe I am still ill, and not up to answering their demands for more info? Can they not use their brains and think that hey... this is a public board, and anyone can read it, and that maybe I did not want certain friends to know just yet everything, on account that I do not ever want them to worry, until I myself have all the results?
No! ? They don't apparently use their brains. Instead they react suspiciously and attack to the point that they have hurt not only me, but others in our community who have experienced the same or similar problems or difficulties in recovery that I have. And these are people who call themselves Christian?
No one can read my mind and know my thoughts and feelings, or anyone else's thoughts or feelings for that matter. Therefor no one should behave the way those women did on the board toward me. It certainly is not true Christian behaviour described in the Bible. And it certainly is not behaviour condoned by DS. And they wonder why people on here are starting to dislike them, when they act so hateful?
And then these same women act all injured when they get into trouble with DS... Never have I campaigned against them, as they frequently do with me, directly on the board, or on their posts. And yet they paint me the villain? I wonder how they would feel if people treated them on here, they way they often treat me? It is all so sad and painful it just makes me want to cry.
Yes... I have reported them. At least I am doing things the way we are asked to by DS, and not taking things onto the board to stir up trouble as they have. Only one post was put up by a friend in order to show proof, that not all cancers are treated the same in all countries... thats all. Yet they themselves have put up posts talking about people lying, and alluding very obviously to me... And they call themselves nice, and me nasty? And some people actually support them in this?
WHAT IS THE HECK WRONG WITH THIS PICTURE?
Sorry about this rant... I am just feeling so ill, and hurting so much over the abuse I've had to deal with on here... a support site.
HUGS for all who care...
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i am sorry for your hurts. i am here for you. just know that. and you had better rest, so that the healing can take place. take care
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life is like a bus ride on a busy street - there are lots of jerks.
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Ya know, Testy? I'm really pissed at these people. I think they know who they are. You did right, ignore, report, delete. You have safety in our group. If they harass they will get banned and reported. The same thing here, they are going after COLEEN more than me. Yes they say they are Christians. But anyone can say that. what is ccoming from their mouths is unrighteous. It is hard to ignore, me, I wanr to kick butt, but what can you do? Nothing. It is a stinking computer. DS has little cliques, or pockets of bad guys. Trouble is, they get banned, they come right back as someone else. If it is OK, I will say a prayer in the group for you. We love you in Christ. Write any time you get this stuff. I am VERY much a warrior. Wally
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Oh my Gosh !
Testy don't let these people take your power. You know there are Christians that are bottle feed and there are Christians that read the word of God themselfs. Testy Christians are sinners everyday. Each one is on a different level. But the most important thing is to wash your hands and stomp your feet and be done with such foolish acts.
"Don't let them take your power!"
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I don't think the ones that youj are talking about claim Christianity At least as far as I can remember from the latest thread. Anyway, feel better soon. Don't do to much, you may feel better but your body needs time to heal..
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My mom had ovarian cancer, had a complete hysterectomy and nothing else. She was cancer free after that as far as I know. Please, you know what is true. Those that don't believe just don't know that sometimes just removing the tumor or precancerous cells is all that is required. I had precancancerous cells, they were removed, and I have had no further problems since.
Don't listen to those that don't have anything nice to say. They are just not informed, not up on all the different treatment options for all the different types of cancers out there.
Hugs honey! Believe in yourself! You are a wonderful person, believe that!
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There are always someone or more in a group that just have t make a large sound!
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I think that just stop talking to those people who make u upset , cause showing it just gives fuel to the fire. Tc of you and your in my thoughts, from a lady who consdiers herself a Good person and believer in God.
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I believe you and so does Ashley. I know it is the truth and pray for a quick recovery and that you pain will be less and less each day.
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How Christ-like of them indeed >:/
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It is to bad that a few bad apples have to ruin the bushel!!! No two people recover alike. God bless you for sharing as much as you have. You are indeed an inspiration to those of us who have dealt with health issues and come out of them successfully.
Rest and give your body time to recover. No surgery is ever easy and it takes time to recover completely. Take care my friend and know that you are in my prayers.
Debbie
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hello luvvy,
HOLD YOUR HEAD UP AND F**K THEM EXCUSE THE LANGUAGE I DONT USE VERY MUCH UNLESS I'M REALLY ANGRY AND THIS SITE ARE FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE HURTING IN WHICH YOU ARE AND YOU HAVE MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS WITH YOU.
DONT WORRY ABOUT THOSE PEOPLE IF YOU WEIGH UP WHO YOUR FRIENDS ARE I BET YOU HAVE MORE THAN YOU THINK.
YOU DONT NEED THIS YOU'VE HAD SURGRY AND YOU NEED NOT BE STRESSED....
SORRY FOR SHOUTING....BUT I FILL BETTER NOW.
YOU TAKE CARE MY FRIEND
LORRAINE
lolly49
I'm sorry this happened to you. I understand how you feel. I try to be fairly guarded on the site and most internet sites as this is not necessarily uncommon.
I think people don't really choose to be concerned for others because they can't see them with their eyes. I guess that's just my opinion.
Hugs (((((Testy))))
Whisperingsprings
Some how I came across your profile.... And I could'nt help but read your journal, I do sympathize with you, on this matter, I've been so deeply hurt by people here on daily strength,that I left a few time and came back.My mistake . But I never joined that group again. It's sad, but there are some mean, cruel, evil people on here.""DON"T LET THEM RUN YOU AWAY """, Just delete them ! And block the others ! Sending support ! Hugs & Prayers,Jobbie
Jobperson
yes people can be very horrible. i thought that here i would be safe but i was wrong, there are bad people everywhere.
sorry you have been hurt.
i hope people treat you better and don't make you feel worse.
depression is hard enough without BITCHES making it worse.
sorry you feel bad
xxx
defective3
hi there, came across your journal entry..i was recently disrespected on here as well. it was embarassing and hurtful, and took me a bit to get over. I'm sorry that you have had the same experience..take care
lk1980
Sadly, there are rude people - not just on DS. Just ignore them.
My motto is:
Don't let the turkeys get ya down. Thanksgiving is right around the corner - and we all know what happens to turkeys then, right?
Hang in there!
Hugs
Chris
ChrisAz