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yoyo72 
Well, today was OK. Nothing unusual. We got a bird today. His name is George. He's a cockateil. My dogs want to eat him..lol We like him so far.
He is doing really well today. Sleeping now (thank God). Don't get me wrong, he really is a good man and wants to be anywhere in his life other than stuck in the house all day and that probably adds to his frustrations. Add a 9 and 11 year old to the mix as well as me working all of the time and you have a big mess..lol. I have to work though or we wouldn't have affordable insurance. I work for the city. They have good benefits.
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My husband has been on a down hill skid lately. It's like riding a roller coaster. You never know where you stand with him. I know it's not his fault. His medical condition makes him this way but it doesn't excuse the name calling and the put downs. Sometimes, I think that I should just take the kids and go. He is better today. He hasn't yelled or called anyone names.
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Boy I understand that. I feel like I am walking on eggshells all of the time. My husband left on Dec 30th. It seems like on Holidays we're fighting. Then he'll come back like nothing ever happened. Then we go through it again. He calls me names but most of all, when he goes off on me, my insides just go down, down, down and I want to run, run, run.
The only difference this time is I am determined not to live like this any longer. He is doing fine right now, because he is getting his way. He is under an extreme amount of pressure trying to get his business going. I listen to Joyce Meyer and have attended several of her conferences...through that I have learned so much. I've learned that we have a choice and it is our choice to be happy. That hasn't worked for me but when I have problems, I can do that...but when I have a husband yelling profanities at me, I sink back into my hole... Not sure what I'm gonna do yet.
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I lived the same hell for 16 years, My best advice is to take baby steps. It doesnt seem possible, but each day that you are not exposed to that kind of abuse, you get stronger! I PROMISE!
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the best to all you guys i cant say i know how you feel ive never been in your shoes.
My husband had a bad car wreck about 11 years ago. He has really bad back problems now. Last year when he was tested the Dr. told me he did not know how he had lived like he has. My husband complains about his pain mostly in the last couple of years. He has used that as an excuse and I usually know when it's about him hurting. I have severe arthiritis and a growth hormone deficiency...kind of along the lines of fibermalasia (sp). So I know pain plays a big role in our attitudes. But I don't use that as an excuse when and I don't get angry and take it out on him when I'm in pain. He does say that this, and the fact that he is starting a new company that they play a role and his not wanting to participate in the children's lives that I mentor. But, I know it's because he doesn't like the grandmother of 2 of the kids. I feel like my dreams are being ripped away from me b/c if he doesn't want it, I sure can't bring the children around here and let him treat them rude. They've been here when he's gone off on me and it scared the terribly. I want so very badly for my husband and I to share the same interests. We used to. We both have taken in kids in our marriage and now we finally have a chance to have children in our lives and he wants no part of it. It breaks my heart...
janap
It is good that you see your husbands condition for what it is. A medical condition that he can't help. It drives me nuts when I'm having a breakdown and people say, "snap out of it". You can't snap out these things any easier than someone can snap out of cancer. Lean on The Lord and he will give you strength.
JennS