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Micall 
8:50pm
Good will is a two way street.
Of all the people that you would of thought would see this would be your family rite ?
Well, Its always been the same around here, i have tried to teach my kids, one 16 today, 20 22 24 and 25 from a previous relationship. They all MIGHT do things if they get something back. They wont do things because it is right or decent. If a person shits on you once then maybe you might give them another chance, if its one of your kids you will keep doing things for them no matter what they do or dont do !
My daughter has just got caught smoking outside her school, a grammar school ! Its her 16th birthday today. She, like all my other kids have bedrooms a foot deep in crap, plates with food on left for days or a week if you dont say anything etc etc, its all getting too fucking much for me though. The untidiness is just an example of the way my kids think !
My partner who said the other day, its only a matter of time before i leave, might be right. She thought i was staying because she was ill, that is true but its also true that she is my soul-mate and i would like to spend the rest of my life with her. Can i handle my kids walking all over us though.
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MICHAEL,THEY NEED TO GROW UP,I CAN SEE MY DAUGHTER DOING THE SAME,SHE LEFT HOME AT 18 TO LIVE WITH HER BOYFRIEND,IT BROKE MY HEART,IT WAS ON AND OFF,THE WAY I BROUGHT HER UP, IT WAS DEVASTETING FOR ME,MY HEALTH STARTED TO DECLINE,STILL I CONTINUED TO SUPPORT HER AND LOVE HER,SHE HAD ALL SHE NEEDEED,,I TRULY REGRET THAT I PROBABLY GAVE HER TOO MUCH.ONE DAY WHEN I AM GONE [I MEAN FOREVER], SHE WILL REMEMBER AND SEE THE WRONG SHE HAS DONE,I BLAME MY HUSBAND FOR CURSING HER BY COMMITTING ADULTERY EARLY IN OUR MARRIAGE,AND CONFESSED 3 YEARS AGO,BEING A BORN AGAIN BELIEVER I BELIEVE IN CURSES ,IF I HAD KNOWN I WOULD HAVE LEFT HIM AND NOT HAVE A CHILD.DON'T BE HARD ON YOURSELF,AND BE PATIENT,I KNOW THE ROOM STINKS,DON'T WASH HER CLOTHES,ALWAYS OUT WITH FRIENDS,,,THIS IS HOW TEENS ARE,AS FOR SMOKING,WHEN I WAS AT COLLEGE MOST OF THE KIDS SMOKED,SHE IS JUST GOING THROUGH THAT STAGE,BE PATIENT,WHEN I LOOK AT MY FRIENDS KIDS ,I REALISE THAT I AM BLESSED,SOME ARE STILL AT HOME,DEPRESSED,NO WORK,DRUGS,.....SO BE ENCOURAGED AND TALK TO THEM,TO BE MORE HELPFUL,HAVE YOU TOLD THEM HOW YOU FEEL,SHARE YOUR FEELINGS,IT MIGHT HELP,WE LIVE IN EVIL AND DIFFICULT TIMES,SHALOM ,LOVE LUCY.
JOYHOLY
Michael,
I can sympathise, my daughter was very untidy, but she did a lot more than smoke a cig, at sixteeen!!!! And you know how she has turned out - i could not wish for a better daughter. I agree with Lucy, try to sit down with your kids and let them know how you feel. My experience with E. has always been that I've received what I have given!
Hugs,
Kathie
KathieH
MICHAEL,Caerphilly is a very quite and lovely small town,the area around is lovely,lots of green and trees,there is a small camping in 'Cwmcarn',just very basic,in a valley,the air smells of pine trees,and you hear the brook,there is a small lake at the back,good for walking,there is camping,it is a place to rest and smell nature,very cheap,love Lucy..
JOYHOLY
Never let children come between you and your own happiness. It's called tough love. Craig
craigchome
oh no hun. hang in there hope things have inproved since you wrote thiis?
my kids have tried to come between me and others dont let them. eventually they will leave home and then things will be easier. widh i had a magic wand hun. but my kids are the same. ah big hugs xxx
CadoAngelus1976
Micall - It must be very hard to love your children some times.
I hope you don't sacrafice your current relationship becaus it sounds like their issues will be long more standing then the time that we exist her on earth.
If there is anyway you can boundary-wise their mess that would be great -- in otherwords perhaps never viewing their room (their stuff) but the outside must be respectd or (they are gone).
I know this is a formula (easy to prescribe but probably NOT easy to effect) but it is a possible formula.
Kindmirrow
oopsie - that is "here on earth" not her -- dang computer "e" is not functioning well.
Kindmirrow