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Micall 
7:25am Thursday
Well things are different, the last journal subject wasnt as bad as i thought it was going to be. Water of a ducks back now maybe. I am stronger :o) Do i now get involved with 2 sons 19 and 23 that have turned a newly decorated bedroom into a toilet, there happy as pigs in a pigsty, well until they cant find things, or they break something that's on the floor etc etc i haven't been able to get any of my kids to tidy there room up for 20 year. I thought being fairly strict was the way to go with my 3 sons, i changed that theory with my daughter, she was brought up with more love and we weren't strict, she is as bad if not worse than the boys. None have ever been to court or kicked out of school etc etc as i had on numerous occasions so that good, my daughter goes to grammar school so that side of things went well. How the F do you get them to have respect for there family home, there parents wishes, there bedroom, there space. i know i can get them to sort there rooms out but it will mean i have to be the bad guy WTF, im sure they think im the devil himself when getting them to tidy up. By untidy, i mean a foot deep in cloths, food, drinks, dirty cups, plates etc etc etc, it is out of order. The other problem is, they will within a day or 2 have it looking like a shit hole again. Kids ? 19 23, daughter nearly 16 AARRGGHH :o( My son has been given another week to get pack stuff from the house he's moving out of, they should of been out Saturday, the house is a mess and looks like nothing is packed, dose he want me to pack and dismantle his stuff again, i did it when he moved from a flat b4, its a 3 bed house this time, full of stuff :o( HEAYUUULP
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If you keep doing it, they will keep making it. Tolerance and patience are two things I am learning....isn't always easy but nor is life.
To a sober day my friend x
m8bear
One day at a time. One thing at a time. One kid at a time....that one is the hard one! lol.
Hang in there! You are Strong! and God is in your corner! Let Him help you out. That's what I am doing, and it sure does help take the pressure off! (o;
rainbowbubblz
i think i grew out of the messy stage in my 30 's or maybe late 30's maybe threaten to throw there stuff away if they leave it lying around ,even if you end up throwing expensive stuff away at first it may be worth it.
hugs x
Alice79
hey ..i have 4 boys 15,12,9,and 4. they are all terrible with respecting there home. they break everything they have , trash there rooms and generally dont care about any of there things. i have tried many ways to change there behaviour and got to say nothing has seemed to work.... big hugs to you. its a battle i go through everyday...although i once left cleaning the kitchen for days and got to say my 15 year old while i was out cleaned it as said it was disgusting ...i was like yep thats my point but his room still like a rubbish tip...im even scaired to go in there...my advice is go to a field scream for all your worth and hope that oneday they will move out lol.
CadoAngelus1976
Thanks again peeps :o) x x x x
Micall
WAIT WITH PATIENCE AND PERSEVERANCE,YOU CAN ONLY ASK AND TELL,STILL ONE DAY THEY WILL KEEP THEIR OWN HOME TIDY,DON'T WORRY ,JUST SET RULES,NOT TO MESS OUT OF THEIR ROOMS.TAKE CARE,LOVE LUCY.
JOYHOLY