Parting ways with my girlfriend
November 9, 2008 4:44pm
It is with the deepest sadness and agony that my beloved girlfriend and I have decided to go our separate ways. We love each other profoundly and …
AveDecamp 
3:37pm, June 11, 2009
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About Me
Until March of 2008, I was in a long-term relationship with a great guy. Back in December of 2007 I was extremely surprised to discover that I had fallen deeply in love with a female friend, which threw me into a state of enormous confusion since I'd always been basically boy crazy. I never had an affair with the woman, but I was open with both her and my boyfriend about how I felt and she and I decided not to spend time together anymore because the situation was too complicatedt. That experience opened a door in me I didn't know was there and for several years I was incredibly confused and frustrated much of the time. I knew deep inside that to be happy I needed to honor this surprising change in my sexual orientation. I was totally open with my boyfriend all along and finally told him that I needed to leave the relationship and be with women, that I had changed and needed to follow a new path. UPDATE March, 2008- My boyfriend and I transitioned into a very sweet friendship and I'm now in an amazing relationship with a woman and sublimely happy. She and my former boyfriend get along very well. I followed my true path and acted with integrity all along and it feels amazing. It was so scary and difficult to make these changes, but absolutely worth it. UPDATE #2 February, 2009- I broke up with my girlfriend 3 months ago and have been dating a lot, and having a great time. The break up was of course really painful, but the right decision. I'm fully out now as "lesbian", after thinking I was bisexual for awhile. I finally had to admit to myself that I had no interest in further intimacy with men, and therefore needed to update my definition to "gay". I feel better than ever for being true to myself and am so excited about the future. It took so much courage to make all these changes in my life, but boy, was it all worth it!!!
Until March of 2008, I was in a long-term relationship with a great guy. Back in December of 2007 I was extremely surprised to discover that I had fallen deeply in love with a female friend, which threw me into a state of enormous confusion since I'd always been basically boy crazy. I never had an affair with the woman, but I was open with both her and my boyfriend about how I felt and she and I decided not to spend time together anymore because the situation was too complicatedt. That experience
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Art. I have a recent renewed passion for visual arts, which were my first love as a child. Acting, which I've done professionally for a long time. Writing, both fiction and non-fiction. Helping people in any way, which I do as a career counselor. Singing in Italian. Animals. Eating out, especially at cool casual international places. Music of all kinds. Hanging out with friends. Middle Eastern dancing. Walking around NYC.
Art. I have a recent renewed passion for visual arts, which were my first love as a child. Acting, which
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I'm so in love!
April 7, 2008 9:35am
I just realized I never did a major journal update here.
Several weeks ago I told my boyfriend that I needed to be freed from the relationship …
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My heart is singing even more loudly!
March 22, 2008 5:30pm
Since I last wrote that I met a woman I had strong feelings for, my feelings have grown into to a most profound love that touches my heart every day …
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My heart is singing!
March 4, 2008 7:26pm
I went to an INCREDIBLE workshop this past week-end for married women who love women and met the most amazing woman there. She is so deep, real, …
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Journal Entry for February 8, 2008
February 8, 2008 11:37am
Feeling mighty fine today!!!
I went to an incredible art class last night at a dynamic, fun amazingly alive art school in Manhattan. As soon as I …
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Hope there's some sunshine at the end of this rainbow for you. Just thinking about you and hoping all is well. I'm really sorry I keep falling off the face of the earth and then reappearing. I really appreciate your support and friendship. Thank you.
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Hi. Many hugs. Have a nice weekend. StacyDianna
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hmmmm.....interesting story.
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Sorry hear about your loss.
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I like your new profile pic.
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Close Bisexuality
After a lifetime of being boy crazy, my sexual orientation started surprisingly shifting 3 years ago. Until March, 2008, I was in a long-term relationship with a very sweet guy, which made the situation extremely challenging and frustrating. I never had an affair but knew I needed to be with women. April 2008 update: I'm no longer in the relationship with my boyfriend. We transitioned into a wonderful friendship and I'm now in a profoundly beautiful relationship with a woman.
Treatments
- Sleep Working / Worked
- I make sure I get a full night's sleep, which for me is 8 hours.
Close Lesbian Relationship Challenges
I've been with my girlfriend since early March, 2008. She's the first woman I was ever with intimately. Up until 4 years ago, I was with men, but then my sexual orientation unexpectedly did a complete flip. I'm deeply in love with my girlfriend and feel very lucky to have found her.
