fallfromgrace's Journal

It pains me that 50% (or more) of all people who get married, get devorced. 

I feel like there are of course situations that are legitimately "irreconcileable" but I think a lot of people just give up to quickly..

Do vows mean anything? U dont vow to be married to someone only when things are good, u vow ---->

"to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part"

or

"my constant friend, my faithful partner and my love from this day forward. In the presence of God, our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live"

or

"Before these witnesses I vow to love you and care for you as long as we both shall live. I take you with all your faults and your strengths as I offer myself to you with my faults and strengths. I will help you when you need help, and I will turn to you when I need help. I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life."

(THESE ARE THE TOP 3 "TRADITIONAL" WEDDING VOWS)

No where do I see "to love u only when things are going well and life is easy....."

Without taking these vows seriously, commitment becomes insignificant... People think, hey I can always just get divorced..

But I do not believe in that, I believe that people run when things get hard, but all relationships are hard, marriage is hard, life is hard...... Bad things happen to good people, good things happen to bad people..... 

The thing that makes marriage so special, so worth fighting for, is the fact that its NOT EASY.