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  ifnotzero (06/22/09)

  Hope you have a good day...
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  ljoki1 (10/06/08)

  Glad you had a good baby shower. Aren't they fun? (when they are for you) LOL! It's nice to be on the other end of a baby shower.
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  AmandaVC (08/26/08)

  Thanks for replying to my post! And congrats on the baby girl! It's encouraging to see success, thank you!
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  searchingmom (05/22/08)

  Some pretty flowers to brighten your day and a note to say: YOU ARE A VERY SPECIAL AND IMPORTANT PERSON. Have a great day.
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  HopefullySomeDay (04/25/08)

  Congrats!!!
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  Elanorien (04/25/08)

  Congrats! keep us posted!!!!
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  ElizabethB (04/22/08)

  THAT IS GREAT NEWS!!! I'm so happy for you!!!!!
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  kimmic (04/13/08)

  Wishing you the best in whatever you choose is right for you. My husband and I have chose adoption because we feel that is right direction for us. I think we have truly gone through our own process to get where we are today. The financial stress has been a big worry with me, but I just need not to worry to much about that and believe that we will figure it out. I keep you posted on everything and let me know how things go for you. Wishing you the best.
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  kimmic (04/11/08)

  Hope things are going well for you. Me and my husband just started the adoption process recently. Let me know if there is anything I can do.
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  searchingmom (04/08/08)

  Jessica, children who are adopted have aspecial need that only by keeping an open heart toward the childs birth mom will be able to be filled when they are told that they are adopted. That is why open adoptions are so important also. Adopted children do bond in the womb with their mother no matter what people say, they know there is something diferent but they will love you and bond with you as if they were yours but when they learn you chose them not birthed them then that missing link will really kick in. that is why the soooner they are told they are chosen and this is their birth mom and shown pictures and the birth mom kept in the loop to a degree letters and photos it will help both in the reuniting but will insure that you are cherished as the childs mom and dad because you raised them. often they develop bad feelings toward the adoptive parents when the adoptive parents are against the child locating the birth mom, so when the adoptive parents keep in touch with her and keep an open mind toward the fact the child will eventually want to know their birth parents also it makes it so the children feel secure in their adoptive parents love and do not want to lose it and it makes you new friends with the birth parents which strengthens the bonds of the family unit as a whole. I say this not only from my own experiences but from the experieence of many of the older children I have adopted in my home who now are adoptive parents themselves, who are practicing these principles. It is proven so many times just look at some of the posts here on this site and other adoption sites how these adoptees feel abandoned by there birth parents when they can not locate them because of closed adoptions. they get depressed and have mental health issues that are very real. by keeping an open adoption the child will know their birth parents and the truth about why they were given up for adoption by parents who loved them so much that they wanted them to have a better life than they could give. and that makes all the difference inthe world. There are so many teens getting pg and unable to care for children because they are but children themselves and those childen live with the knowledge they could not keep their child and it haunts them most of their lives over that child when it is a closed adoption whereas when it is open adoption the birth mom sees and is comforted that her child has a loving home and she is kept up to date by pictures at preagreed upon intervals, once a year or twice a year, what ever you as the adopted parents feel comfortable with. You keep her in the loop and when the child is introduced and told the story it is true facts and they then find the person who has been a missing link in their life and every one is happy. and in most cases this saves a lot of heartbreak on all sides. I will be happy to give any and all the help I can you and answer any questions you may have. I myself use 4 times a year to send pictures to birth parents and when the child is about 9 or 10 depeneding on the childs ability to understand things I tell them how special they are and how I chose them over other children that were available and this is their birth mom here is a pictue of her and ina few months we will make a call to her to let the child have a talk with her on the speaker phone so the child and mom have a chance after that to chat once a month for a few minutes then after a about a year of that depending on both their wants I bring them together face to face. and let them visit each other. Now that is just how I have done not that ou have to do it that way my adopted daughter feels more like age 15 or 16 is better and the meeting at the age 18. Myself I prefer it before the teen years because the children are dealing with so many hormone changes at that time in their life I feel it is better for them to know from an earlier age but those are the adoptive parents choices. feel free to contact me any time about any questions you may have by either contacting me here or at albatarseh@yahoo.com my personal email. lisa

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