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Open Smoking Addiction & Recovery

Started smoking when I was 16 to 'fit in' with a group of friends. I have smoked ever since (now 24). I've gone without food, not paid rent and fuel because I always have cigarettes. I find that I can quit but because I don't drink anymore, I use smoking for 'something to do'.

Treatments

Cold Turkey Somewhat Helpful

Unless something really stressful crops up.

Nicotine Gum Not Working

Horrible taste.

Open Financial Challenges

All my life I've been irresponsible with my money. I love spending money like I'm one of the hiltons but I can't afford it. I'm don't have a high paying job but can still pay most of my bills. I envy people around me who seem to be able to handle their finances and never seem to be completely skint. My partner is just as bad with his money so we are not good role models for each other.

Treatments

Budgeting Working / Worked

Until I blow the budget, I then scrap it. I find I do a budget when times are really tough and vow to follow it but a week later it's out the window.

Cut Up Credit Cards Working / Worked

I cancelled a credit card and would have to re-apply to get it back activated. With my credit rating I wouldn't be able to so now I'm just paying it off.

Debt Consolidation Not Working

My bank refuses to consolidate my debts as I've err'd on repayments in the past. A debt consolidation company says I don't need to use their services, I just need to budget properly.

Open Fitness Goals
Type: Be the best you can be

I'm aiming to lose weight and tone my body. I want to be able to walk for more than 10 minutes without puffing!!!

Treatments

Hiking Working / Worked

Is a lot of fun, exploring the rugged coast where I live. I'll be surely getting back into it this weekend.

Kickboxing Working / Worked

Pretty full on, A bit sore afterwards but I can see how it works! phew!

Pilates Not Working

Too slow and boring. I'd have to do it with a group rather than off DVD

Running Working / Worked

I used to run regularly and it really worked.

Weight Training Working / Worked

Great at toning arms and chest area. I did it mostly at the gym so when I sign up again I'll be back into weights.

Physical Exercise Working / Worked

I feel still too large to go to the gym so when I drop some more kilos I'll be down there in a heart beat.

Open Female Sexual Issues

Been with partner 17 months and have had an rollercoaster sex life. I know it's my own issues as he is always keen for intimacy. I feel really alone sometimes because it's not really talked about.

Treatments

Relaxation Working / Worked

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. I can't get enough of my partner when I come back from being away but it doesn't last for long.

Open Healthy Relationships

I need to learn how to make and keep my relationship healthier then what it is currently

Treatments

Patience Not Working

I had to put my foot down a few times so things would actually change. my partner is a big procrastinator.

Talking Working / Worked

It works a lot although I do most of the talking....

Writing Working / Worked

this site is really working me by being able to vent and have other people not judge me but understand what I'm going through.

Open Physical & Emotional Abuse

A close friend of mine is in a physical, emotional and abusive relationship and although she knows it's wrong, she constantly takes him back.