kimberee's Journal at DailyStrength.org

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I am proud of your decision, sometimes we forget that it is just as easy to fight for something as it is to give up. I had to break up with my husband twice in our 20 years of marriage. both for important reasons, and each time we got help to work thru the problems. when we got married we wanted it to be forever. and there is no reason why it shouldnt be. If you only have problems they can be worked out. It your partner has given up and chosen another you have a harder battle, and it is sometimes easier to let that sit, and just try to live. then if they good in a bind and realize they really love you they will return. Forgiving is so very important. on both accounts yourself and the other person. and looking inward to see why we feel like we do about the others actions. Empathy is hard, but worth it. I know I had to make some serious changes in my life. I found I was too critical, and didnt teach the kids to respect their Dad when he needed it. I dont necessarily mean deserved it, Men are huge bundles of ego. and they need women to stroke that, It is easy to resent that, but it has it's advantages. My husband tells me everyday, how much he loves me and appreciates me,.. I confess to being manipulative regarding his ego. I stroke his heart till he is comfortable enough to discuss our problems.. and I tell him flat out.. I dont want and answer if it isnt the truth. I want to know if I have been mean.. or hurtful.
It is honesty that helps us to risk our hearts.
I really hope that the movie was helpful. I havent heard of it.. we have a Church we belong to and our pastor is a good man who cherishes his wife, and is the first to admit when he has ruffled her feathers.
Give your husband the chance to be honest even if it hurts you, then somehow swallow what lump might be in your throat, and be honest to say how it feels and that you want to work thru that, so he or you for that matter wont have to want to make those kind of mistakes.
humans are full of wild ideas, and emotions, and it doesnt take much to get off track. even the plans we have in our marriages, then our consciences get the best and we try to cover our errors... and secrets and walls are created.
There is a scripture I would like to share with you...
it simply says.. a brother offended is harder to win than a walled city....
think about how we hurt our family or partners, and the selfpreservation we develope to protect ourselves from the repercussions. It is very difficult to break thru.. But it is not impossible.
I wish you the very best and I will pray that God will give you the right words and emotions to share with your husband and that his heart is soft and will receive what is the right thing for the both of you. 2 hearts fit together because of love and compromise... the groves then fit just right.
God Bless you both Kimberee... your friend Rachel

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