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dulcylee 
8:48pm Tuesday
So, it has now been just over a week since the tragic fire that destroyed over 65 homes & businesses ~ my mom's included. I went up to the "war zone" on Friday & was in utter shock. The news pictures & videos really don't come close to showing the devastation that is left. It really does look like a war zone.....Iraq ~ not the northern California community that I grew up in. As we sifted thru the ashes I realized the memories that I had there.....the toys I had from my childhood that I was saving for Danicka, the cradle that was mine as a baby (saved for Dani), the many beautiful things my deceased grandma had made, all our Christmas ornaments, pictures, etc.
My parents were selling the house (long story but in essence they were having financial problems as my SF lost his job 3 mths ago & my mom has 3 furlough days/mth which = a 20% pay cut since she works for the state of CA). They have a rental house that they had moved some of their furniture into (bed, couch, entertainment center) but nothing really personal. I went to their new place & to be honest it made me even sadder to see some of their furniture but no personal effects ~ it looks so empty. Now the real work begins....they have to go thru their memories & inventory what they used to have & come up with replacement values for everything so insurance can reimburse them for the loss. It had not completed escrow so now no one knows where they stand legally ~ it is such a mess.
Not to mention that this is the busiest time of year for my mom. She runs the fairgrounds & the fair starts on Thursday. Then to add insult to injury my mom rear-ended my SD the other night when a car pulled out in front of him & he slammed on the brakes. It is a total mess. Thankfully their insurance agent is being awesome (he lost his house in the fire too) & is waving their deductible. So, my mom is handling it ok.....I know she is holding on by a tread & once the fair is over she will probably break. But, Danicka is the best thing that my family could have in their lives right now.
Danicka is 3wks old today. Last week she weighed in at 6lbs 5.5oz & is up to 19 3/4in. She eats like a trooper & until last night was sleeping great ~ only waking every 3-4hrs at nite. But, last nite she was testing her mommy for the first time. She was not a happy camper from 2-7AM & needless to say neither was mommy ~ it is hard to be sleepy with a migraine & a crying newborn. During my entire pregnancy I only had 1 migraine (before I had at least 4/mth) but now they are returning. I have had a headache every day for the last week. I know I need to be back on the pill to level out my hormones but I want to breastfeed for at least 6mths (really want to do it a for a year). I will have to see what my OB thinks.
Ok, I have to go because the peanut princess is fussy. Thank you all for the hugs & prayers for my family. I appreciate each & every one of you!!!!!
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I can't imagine how hard that must be for your mom, when we had the fires coming our way we started writing a list and takin pictures of what we had it sounds like she didint have time for that. What a deveastating loss for all of you. I'm so glad you have Danicka to help you all keep your mind on the really important things in life.
4EVERinLOVE
Dulcy I am so so so sorry for all of the loss and tragedy occurring in your family right now. There arent any words..the part where you wrote all about the personal effects that are gone just broke my heart. And I know they are just things...but it is still so hard to lose things that are so special to us. Makes me want to go out and get a fire proof box right now. You all seem like a very strong bunch of people and are getting through this somehow. Im so happy that Dani brings joy to your lives and that she is here to at least make some of the bad things not seem so bad. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
And I am so glad that Dani is doing great...I am so sorry about the migraines though. I am way too familiar with those...pre pregnancy and during!! They suck and I feel for you. I have already decided that when this baby comes the "lease is up" and I will be going back on my meds....I will try BFing...but not for long. So good for you!!!
RoxiesMama
Sweetie, I'm following your story, and I'm so sad that they have lost so much of who they are. I was telling my DH that our flooded basement, and the 20 k we spent to prevent that from happening in the first place, seems like small potatoes in times like this. I can only imagine the amount of shock that must be going through your family like a wave. Prayers sweetie.....many hugs as well.
God works in mysterious ways. Dani is the greatest focus rigt now in everyone's life. There is a smile, and a care free life in that little girls eyes right now. It's that reminder we get from babies and fur babies that life is great as long as we have each other to love on. Back to the K.I.S.S. rule if you will. When I spoke to DH about "what if"....we said we'd take our pets and any wedding pics we had as our most valued items. It is about everyone being ok sweetie. It is about the family growing closer and the "truer" things in life I suppose.
I'm soooo deeply sorry for your families loss and devestation. I pray that you will overcome this with flying colors, and get back to some normalcy soon. So sad sweetie, but so blessed in a different way. Hugs.
htag
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry for your parents. I can't imagine what it would feel like, but please know that they are in my prayers that they are able to stay strong through this.
It sounds like Dani is doing well, though I'm sorry about the migraines. I hope that your dr is able to come up with something that will work so you can breastfeed. Hugs to you!
lyssie2
Think of you and Mom often...Ill call you tonight to catch up. Hope everyone is doing okay. xoxo
bcgradgirl
I will continue my prayers for you and your family. I am glad Dani is there to give your family such joy during this time of loss.
xoxoxox
Martha
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A new baby can mend a lot of hurts. I am so sorry to here about the fire. I hope things start to turn around for your mom. and I hope you headaches calm down, they are no fun when the little one is demanding your attention. Dani is beautiful.
PDL
I am soo sorry for your Mom but soo glad you guys have Dani to help make things bearable!!! I hope now things will start getting better for her and your headaches get better, the lack of sleep probably isnt helping but we know its soo worth it for our little ones we waited so long for!
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