Amy E's Journal

Okay, we came back from vacation last night. We had a great trip. The big news is that I met my father one night. It went very well from my perspective. He started with saying that weneed to heal this between us. I said that we will not agree on it. He agreed and so we just moved on. We talked for an hour and a half about nothing very important - nothing controversial. He told me that his wife's daughter, my step-sister who I've never met, is in jail for hooking. Well, that's nice. At the end of our talking, he said that now that we've met, we need our families to get together. I said, no, we need to keep it just us for now. He wants to have his wife with him, and I'm not willing to do that. Totally not willing to add his wife into this. She wrote that crazy letter to me. He got mad I think. He got up to get her a coffee and I went to the bathroom. When I came back he was outside. I went up to him and we hugged. That was it. I know that his wife will not be happy with me being in touch with just him. I hope that he can see that that's the only way that this will work. He did say at one point that he may sleep now. He hasn't been sleeping well for two years. I don't accept that guilt. He did that all on his own. He is struggling finacially and needs a hip replacement. He has stopped drinking, and now says that he hates people who drink. Whatever. I don't know what will happen from here, probably not much. My 14 year old is not interested in seeing him. He knows how hard this has been for me. We didn't say what we would do in the future. I don't have plans to call my father. Not so sure what to do now. I may write him in the next few weeks. I don't want to talk to his wife. Overall though, I was shocked that it went that well. He is the same, no change there, but he at least knew to keep some issues off the table.