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Amy E 
I haven't been on here as much as I'd like to.
I've kind of been retreating, I think. I haven't talked to my sisters in a while. One of them was telling me that her car is giving her problems. This is the car that we bought for her a year ago. I can't do this for her anymore. She doesn't have kids at home anymore, they are in college or married. I committed to helping her as long as she had kids at home. I ended our conversation quickly and haven't called back. I kind of feel like I was fried in a frying pan last summer, and now I'm still burned. We plan to home to visit for two weeks this summer instead of four weeks. I won't be going to my niece's wedding. I've had enough family for a while.
My church group is almost over. The last person shared her story. I am the one with the worst story I see now. I'm feeling a little uncomfortable about that now. Some have made comments that they feel bad for those of us who have parents that are problematic - alcoholics. Compared to everyone else's lifelines, mine is a tragic mess, honestly.
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Your sister reminds me a lot of my mom's situation. My mom is from a dysfunctional family and is the only one, who really made it professionally as far as her other sisters. My mom has always stood on her own two feet and had to support me and a couple different husbands at varying times. Her sisters tend to want to migrate towards her too for support. My mom does help out every now and then, but it's limited. In many ways, they're almost like daughters in that they are not very self sufficient. My mom comments to me that they can find a man to support them. It sounds kind of mean, but at the same time, no one ever gave my mom a free ride. So, she resents giving handouts to people, who don't want to work, when she often works 60+ hours in a week. She's told me she'd help me out in a heartbeat, if I needed it though. She also knows that I work hard and would not sponge off her and would strive to get back on my feet and away from my mom's support.
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