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Amy E 
I had a bad dream last week. In the dream, my mom was alive. I had thought that she had died, but she didn't. She was coming back to us, but I was worried. My father was with another woman. I don't know if they were married, or if it was his wife, Judy. I wanted to see my mom so much, but was worried about her getting hurt by my father.
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You've been conflicted ever since your mother's death because of your father's actions. It seems you've needed his help all along to help you in getting past this stage and the acceptance of your mother's death, but he hasn't been there for you.
Do you think he's accepted her death or does he still carry many demons, guilt, etc.? I don't think his current wife has been a positive influence for him, and it's unfortunate. She bears so much animosity and jealousy. I wonder why..
During my divorce 11 years ago, I went to a counselor, who urged me to spend time alone before throwing myself into another relationship. That way, I could take time to get to know myself, absorb what I'd been thru, etc. (I didn't listen, but it worked out.) I think your dad needed this transition for himself and still does. Any of his feelings that surface about the past probably become suppressed, and that may have a lot to do with his alcoholism, an inability to cope.
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