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Today I wrote a letter to the ex. I told him that I resented him for the actions he took. Divorce is hard, but it's pure hell when one party torments and acts abusive. That was my ex. He not only told me that he would be adult during the process; but he lied and sneaked around to harm me. Through his lies; he was quite abusive during mediations and meetings. I saw a side of him that I will never forget. I resent him for taking and stealing money from me; taking my home; furniture; self worth; self esteem; and a lifestyle that I had and saw us having.
The letter also thanked him. I thanked him for allowing me to attend school; and that he financed me through new endevors. I thanked him for allowing me to go; and that he found someone else. I am thankful he let me go. I have met many people along the way. Currently I met a wonderful person that I enjoy dating. I see a lot of health and love in this other person. I thanked him for letting me go to pursue my career and self worth. I have gained my self worth again.
Once and a while I hit a bump in the road; and have a dream about him. It makes my day difficult but then the next day I am better. I am beginning to wake up and not think about him. I am beginning to not talk about him so much. I hope someday to wake up and NOT even give a thought to him.
I realize memories are with me forever. But soon those fade to a sense of a better time and not remorse. I will never forget my ex.....but now I forgive him. I forgive the divorce. I don't have to trust the man; or even be friends with him. But it's time to forgive all of this and move on....it's my time to move on. It's time I am happy.
