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My friend was very sick when pregnant. At one point her kidneys and liver started to shut down. She sat at work with an IV and PIC line hooked up. She lost 25 lbs in the 4+ months she was pregnant. The baby always appeared to be okay though, despite her being sick and bleeding on and off. She saw a nutritionalist because of the weight loss. She needed to either gain or maintain over a week or they were going to put in a feeding tube. Last Thursday she weighed in and had put on 1.5 lbs! We were all so excited! Things were starting to look up and they were gearing up to find out the sex of the baby.
Thursday night she started bleeding heavier and cramping. She went to the ER and was told the baby looked good and heart rate was good. Her doctor had her go for an in depth u/s that showed her amniotic fluid was too low and uterus was too small. She said the baby looked "squished." She was put on bed rest for a week hoping the fluid would build back up.
She was seeing her doctor late Monday after noon and was supposed to call to let me know how it went. I realized as I got into bed that we had not talked. I went to sleep and had a bad dream about her losing her baby (it was a boy in my dream). At 3 AM my phone rang and it was her letting me know she had lost the baby.
She said that at around 11 PM she went into labor and was rushed to the hospital. She delivered the baby there. She said to the doctor that she could not believe she had a m/c. The doctor told her "you did not have a m/c, you delivered your baby too early."
They are doing a full autopsy to figure out what went wrong. There was not rip in the placenta when the baby was delivered but her blood cell counts were high. They think it may have leaked weeks ago causing an infection and then the rip healed.
She is really struggling with the loss (as is to be expected) and how life just goes on. I explained that she lost her child and she needs to grieve that loss. I told her not to let anyone ever let her think anything less. I know some people think that if you lose a baby before full term that it does not count. Well we all know different. That was their first child. She went into labor and delivered their child and their child died. There is nothing worse then losing a child.
I am telling this story so others know her child existed. I know that everyone here can appreciate that and I thank you for taking the time to read this.
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I have no words for the profound sadness of this story. I hope your friends can find some peace soon.
klimawife
I am so sorry to hear about her loss... I have always considered myself a mom since about 10 wks when I saw that my baby looked every bit like a little human... I think maybe even before that when the we saw the baby moving on the u/s! your friend will always be a mother the that angel and I am glad you wrote to tell everyone about her story! I wish her the best in her healing process and will pray for her... I always find myself scared for the health an well being of my precious miracle, just praying for a safe and full term pregnancy... I hope they will be able to give your friend the answers she will need for closer.
bgspicer
Im so sorry to hear about her loss! Just so heartbreaking. Sounds like she fought and did everything she could do. Was the baby a boy like in your dream? Praying for her to find peace and strength.
AmberR
I am heartbroken for your friend...I cannot imagine anything more devastating. My heart goes out to her. I will say a prayer that she finds peace and comfort.
Jenn17
I can't even imagine. I will keep them in my thoughts.
laraM
OMG! What a terrible thing to happen. Lots of positive thoughts & prayers to your friend. This will be a very tough time for them.
Z1977
I can't even imagine your friend's heartbreak. What a terrible tragedy! Both her and her DH are in my thoughts and prayers. Just having seen my own baby at 6.5 weeks, I think of it as my baby, my child and a human being. No one should ever say different. Full term or not, she was/is a mother to a wonderful angel, who will watch over her forever. May God bless and heal the family.
CosmicLibrarian
I am so sorry your friend has to endure this pain. You are a great friend for honoring her baby's life. One of my close frineds still refers to all 4 of my sons, not just my two living sons and that mean the world to me. Encourage her to get Christmas ornanments with her baby's name, make memory books or shadow boxes, whatever she can do to memorialize her baby. I will keep her in my prayers.
Jenelle8
My heat is breaking for your friend and having lost a baby at 20wks, I know that it knocks the wind out of you. It is hard on so many levels and I will be praying for her. I can't say you ever forget but with time, the pain does get easier to handle.
PrioleauLuv
I am so sorry for your friend. I can't imagine the helplessness she must have felt and then the pain in losing her child. These things should not happen. I will keep your friend in my prayers.
jptobe
I am so sorry for her. I can't imagine her pain. I will pray for her. It is nice she has you to talk too. For she called you right away to talk to you. I will pray for her to someday someway find healing and strength. Praying for her and her husband.
FNP
I am so, so sorry for your friend's loss. She is lucky to have you in her life. I will be thinking of her and her angel baby.
Rachm
As I sat here reading this sad story about your friend, my heart aches for her. But, I can't help but feel like she is so lucky to have you in her corner. With all you have going on you still can't help but worry about others... you are such an amazing woman & have such a big heart, I know she is comforted by you!
You are both in my thoughts & prayers!
BIG HUGS!!!
Jcurly
My heart is breaking for your friend. I know how scared she must have been. I'll say a prayers for her and for her baby who is now watching over her from above.
JudylynS
My SIL went through the same thing at 34 weeks. Her placenta either ripped or calcified and she lost her little boy. The tech doing the US got a dr who then came in and said, Well your baby's dead. She lost her child and all those involved need to respect her need to grieve. She is very lucky to have such an understanding, caring fried like you.
cehale1008
I'm so sorry and my heart goes out to your friend. Having lost Devin at 25 weeks I know how hard it is to lose a child. Yes, that child existed and will always be her first child. You've been a wonderful friend to her. I hope when she's ready she could use this website to help her, I know it helped me so much after my loss.
Jen2279
I'm so sorry and sad for your friend. There are no words...I hope she gets through this great loss. She is lucky to have you for a friend.
brenskopf