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rainbowmama 
I haven't been here in nearly two months. And it's december...the month of amny losses and anniversaries.
This will be the first Christmas w/o my step-dad. The second w/o my MIL, the third w/o my mom.
My brother-in-law is going though the long, difficult process of being accepted to have a lung transplant. My sisters' heart problems continue to progress.
This morning, my daughter and her fiance's car broke down on their way to wirk, so I had to rush out with tools for them. Now, she has my car. (I don't mind that though).
Over the past two weeks, we have gotten hints and tips that my son and his wide are having serious marriage difficulties. She can be a very sweet girl, but is very stubborn, and immature at times, and everything is always "my way or the hioghway."
Due to econimic times, and constant repairs with my sosn' car or the house, he took on a part time job. He works his ft job 40 hours a week, and the pt one anywhere from 15 to 35 hours a week.
SInce so many people don't have work at all, he feels blessed and wants to work all thehours he can, to better their situation.
His pt boss asked him to work a few hours on Christmas morning. His wife went bulistic and told him that if he did, he would be "looking for a new place to live!" He works, she spends. She has a new car, his is 10 years old with 190,000 miles on it, and is always breaking down.
On her days off, she goes where she wants and does what she wants. On his days off, he cleans, does laundry and is expected to have dinner on the table when she gets home. Then, she criticises what he cooked or how he cooked it. They have been married for under 3 years.
He is stressed and heartbroken. It's his second marriage, and the first wife was worse than this one.
We are supposed to all get together for Christmas, but I can't imagine what it will be like.
She has been calling me and sending me messages on "my space" trying to sell her self as the "whipped little puppy" who hasn't done anything wrong. I listen to her, try to show her compassion, and try to encourage her to be gentler on him, and not pick so many fights over such rediculous things. On the other hand, my son has our complete support. He went through hell the first time, and barely escaped with his life, we don't want to see this happen again.
So much turmoil, amongst so much grief. I gettig too old and too tired for all of this nonsense. Hubby and I are about to celebrate our 33rd wedding anniversary. Why can't my kids have what we have?
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This younger generation thanks that life is so easy. They don't realize you have to work hard at a marriage to keep it together. I know that for sure. I have been married 39 years and we have had a lot of problems,but you have to be willing to try & the younger generation doesn't want to try at anything.
Hope that you have a good Christmas is fine & not to much of a uproar...Love & hugs, Connie
ConH
you have to set boundies up,now to be so involed,your hubbie and you are a team,tell your childern,to live there lifes,not to dump all ther stuff on you,love them,with small talk,friendlness.happy times, dinner out. tell them there a coulpe not you childern,adults,find friend to dump,on. say you love them both,and meam it .good luck
BlueBird33
Your son's situation sounds like my brothers. He pretends to be happy for the sake of his children but is very angry, takes it out on others. We didn't have the holidays together this past year, and it was very sad as my mom died a year ago in December. Family can be great, but can also break your heart. Much love and prayers to you.
nancy7161