My married life
July 21, 2009 11:51am
I am a mom of 2 girls, one teenage, one pre-teen. I have been married for over 16 years to a man who turned to drugs approximatley 4-5 …
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verydepressed 
2:18pm, August 20, 2009
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About Me
Mom of 2 beautiful girls. I am married to a man who has a drug problem but hasnt beenusing in about 2 months, and who has also been abusive to me. I was concentrating more on the drug addiction and not the abuse, thinking once the drugs would stop, the abuse would as well. Also, because the abuse is infrequent and mostly when he has to "look at himself". However, I realize that he abuse most likely will not stop and so I am trying to learn more about abusive relationships and Im trying to get healthy, and do things for myself, like going back to school.
Mom of 2 beautiful girls. I am married to a man who has a drug problem but hasnt beenusing in about 2 months, and who has also been abusive to me. I was concentrating more on the drug addiction and not the abuse, thinking once the drugs would stop, the abuse would as well. Also, because the abuse is infrequent and mostly when he has to "look at himself". However, I realize that he abuse most likely will not stop and so I am trying to learn more about abusive relationships and Im trying to get healthy,
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Hi...I read your reply to a thread and part of it sounded just like me! I could have written this..."The only way i can tell is that he cant go to sleep at night and he kind of isolates himself. He goes to work, has a great job, makes good money, but on weekends has no energy for his family. I have 2 kids...". That is eaxctly how my husband acted when he was smoking coke. I didn't know he was doing it until he told me just about 3 months ago...he has been clean for 87 days and is very active in NA, but I live every day in fear of him using again. I hope we can help support each other!
Ray of Sunshine
Hi to all of my DS friends!! Whooooo Hoooo! How about those OSU Cowboys? They beat Baylor Bears 34 to 7 last Sat!! Watch out OU..here we come!! I had a fabulous weekend here in OKC!! Had coffee with a new friend Friday evening….then went on a walk around Lake Hefner on Sat morning with Berkeley the Wonder Dog…..then used my new BBQ grill to smoke a couple of slabs of ribs yesterday. How was your weekend?? Cindi
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Whoooooo Hooooooo!!! What a fabulous weekend for me here in Oklahoma!! Homecoming Walkaround on Friday night was AMAZING!!! For a glimpse see the OSU student video link: http://ra.okstate.edu/osuaa/video/... The Homecoming theme for 2009 is "Branded For Life" and the Greek house decks (done by a team comprised of a Fraternity and a Sorority) were the best ever this year, IMHO. I has the pleasure of waliking around University Blvd Friday evening from 7 pm until almost 11 pm. Then on Saturday, my beloved Oklahoma State Cowboys beat those Missouri Tigers 33 to 17!!! I will try to get tech support to help me download picts from my i-phone later this week!!! What did you do for fun this last weekend?? Cindi
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Ray of Sunshine
Hi to all of my DS frinds!! I am heading towards Stillwater for Oklahoma State University's Homecoming walk around this evening. This is the biggest and best college homecoming in the nation according to USA Today. All of the fraternities and sororities team up together and decorate the fraternity house with an elaborate engineered moving house deck each fall, based on a theme set by the college. And the pomping is AMAZING......they use chicken wire soooooo small and intricate that they have to stuff the tissue paper squares in with chopsticks. I hope to be able to take pics with the i-phone and post them for Monday morning positive hugs!! Do something wonderful just for you this weekend, will ya??? Hugs from OKC!!!! Cindi
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I will seek and find you.
I shall take you to bed and have my way with you.
I will make you ache, shake & sweat until you moan & groan.
I will make you beg for mercy, beg for me to stop.
I will exhaust you to the point that you will be relieved when I'm finished with you.
And, when I am finished, you will be weak for days.
All my love,
The Flu
Now get your mind out of the gutter and go get your flu shot!
From: Cindi DS
I rescued a lost kitten @ the resort I work at on Saturdays. She went to a good home. From: Katt DS
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