The midlife crisis feels like such a crisis because it is a time of intense change and therefore confusion about what to do next. According to Carl Jung, the psychologist who first identified the midlife crisis, it is part of the natural process of development.
It typically happens between 40 and 60 but can also start much earlier. Here are some signs that may indicate you are going through your midlife crisis.
• You are feeling unsatisfied with the lifestyle that you used to be happy with.
• You are feeling a lack of interest or excitement with your life.
• You question why you have chosen the lifestyle you have and are considering making a radical change in your life.
• You're not sure what you want in life and are searching for meaning in your life.
• You are considering changing your lifestyle dramatically to escape feelings of unrest and discontentment and at the same time you don't really know what would make you happy now.
All these feelings can be very alarming to deal with. You will need to guidance from a life coach or therapist because at the moment, you can only see this from the inside, where you reside. An objective person trained in dealing with these issues can guide and reassure, and help you move into the next chapter in your life successfully, where you can live the rest of your life true to your purpose.
What is the process of using this time to gain perspective on what is best for you?
During this time you will want to take the opportunity to examine the outer person or persona that you have presented to the world so far. Have you been expressing your passion in life or have you done what has been expected of you by your family, spouse, parents or children?
The pain of a midlife crisis will force many people to ask themselves this question and after a period of uncertainty, to reach or adopt a new persona which fits your inner experience. This is a time one of more awareness and of trying ways of being that you didn't explore before, which can lead to a life of being more balanced and fulfilled.
- Susan Quinn