This will be the second Mother's Day without my mother and I am noticing a trend. About mid-April it starts - the commercials, the billboards, and newspaper ads collectively describing the "perfect" gift to give or place to go for Mother's Day. At first I felt a slight twinge of sadness, but being the well trained therapist that I am, I ignored it! Still, the deluge of reminders kept coming and coming. Eventually, I just wanted to scream, "Enough already, I know it's Mother's Day!" As much as I wanted to ignore it, I just couldn't. I was bombarded with these messages.
I wish that alongside all of the Happy Mother's Day cards, there were other cards that acknowledge those of us who have a difficult time with the day. For instance, people in my situation, whose mother has passed away or mothers whose children have passed away. Also people who, for whatever reason, are estranged from their mothers or mothers who are estranged from their children. Somehow, if you do not have a mother in good standing, it can feel as if you don't exist. Well, to all of you grieving this Mother's Day for reasons that I mentioned or those that I did not, I want to acknowledge you and offer this prayer. Not only has it brought me comfort, it brought my mother comfort, too. I found it among her things after she died. So, this is for all of you who are grieving this Mother's Day...
In the rising of the sun and its going down, we remember them.
In the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter, we remember them.
In the opening buds and in the rebirth of spring, we remember them.
In the rustling of leaves and in the beauty of autumn, we remember them.
In the beginning of the year and when it ends, we remember them.
When we are weary and in need of strength, we remember them.
When we are lost and sick at heart, we remember them.
So long as we live, they too shall live, for they are now a part of us, as we
~~Hebrew Union Prayer Book~~