People living with depression know all too well the desire to break that cycle while often feeling powerless over the strength of it. That helpless feeling often feeds the depression and makes it worse. This cycle is one that must be broken in order for recovery to begin. I wish there was a one rule book of how to cure depression. It would bring such relief for so many who deal daily with the debilitating symptoms if we could just put a cast around the depression just like an arm when it breaks. Instead it becomes more like an old passed down recipe where one of the ingredients is missing and you're constantly trying different ones until you get it right.
Growing up my mother used to make a pumpkin chiffon pie every thanksgiving. That pie was magical and months prior to the holiday my family would begin pining for it. When my mother passed away, I couldn't find a copy of that recipe anywhere. Every year as I try to recreate it, I can't figure out what ingredient or ingredients did I get wrong or completely missed. It's extremely frustrating! Of course I know that trying to recreate a recipe is not at all the same caliber of pain and frustration as recovering from depression but I think the concept is similar.
We usually have no say in when a depressive episode strikes but we must have a say in the healing process or it will never happen. Making the decision to do whatever it takes to get out of the black hole of depression is one of the most difficult parts of the process. It's get even harder if there have been many attempts with little success.
One ingredient in breaking the depression cycle is bravery. Being brave enough to try again is a starting place. In my private practice, the clients who did whatever it took to climb out were the ones that had the most success rate managing their depression.
The next ingredient is to act. Choose to accept help and cooperate regardless if you have faith it will work. Belief in getting better is often at a minimum when depression is in full swing. Sometimes recovery depends on accepting help regardless if you initially believe it will work.
Finally, understand that if you try a help method and it doesn't work you have to be brave again and move on to another type of help. Some options include:
Again, these are some options. You may have ideas of your own and should try them. What is most important is that you find the right ingredients that work for you.