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What You Need to Know About Non-Verbal Communication
Posted in Healthy Relatio... by Dr. Georgianna Donadio on Dec 19, 2012
Albert Merhabien, the famed communication researcher, stated that non-verbal communication makes up almost 93% of all the "messages" we receive from other individuals. Others suggest that it is actually more like 60-70% of non-verbal communication that lets us know what others are really feeling.
What we know about how the brain and body work is that all thoughts and feelings are ways that we cope with surviving in our world and; that for many of us NOT revealing our feelings but holding them back, may be the "safe" way to cope with others at work, home, and in general.
What is also well understood is that there are "tells" or neurological expressions of these withheld, non-verbal communications that are going on inside of our brains. Even though we may not consciously or intentionally express verbally or physically how we feel, our brain/body connection does express these thought and feelings in non-verbal ways. These non-verbal ways are the "tells" that police and other professionals use to tell if someone is withholding the truth or information they are not revealing.
There are many books on the subject of body language and non-verbal communication. It is important for all of us to become aware of how our physical and verbal or non-verbal behavior impacts others, especially those who spend the most time in our environment.
Non-verbal communication can often cause one individual in a relationship to become upset if they are seeing or interpreting non-verbal actions by their partner as being rejecting or disinterested. Often times, before a relationship breaks up we can have an idea that the relationship is in trouble by the lack of eye contact, or verbal communication, or even the way our partner crosses their arms and legs when we are trying to speak to them.
There is a science to non-verbal communication interpretation, as well as a science to understanding the best way to express our feelings, in ways that can result in a positive or negative outcome. The science is directly related to neurological and neurotransmitter connections between thoughts and feelings in the brain and their communication to the muscles and nerves in the rest of our body.
To have a better sense of our own non-verbal communication can really assist us in creating more successful relationships.
- Dr. Georgianna Donadio
What we know about how the brain and body work is that all thoughts and feelings are ways that we cope with surviving in our world and; that for many of us NOT revealing our feelings but holding them back, may be the "safe" way to cope with others at work, home, and in general.
What is also well understood is that there are "tells" or neurological expressions of these withheld, non-verbal communications that are going on inside of our brains. Even though we may not consciously or intentionally express verbally or physically how we feel, our brain/body connection does express these thought and feelings in non-verbal ways. These non-verbal ways are the "tells" that police and other professionals use to tell if someone is withholding the truth or information they are not revealing.
There are many books on the subject of body language and non-verbal communication. It is important for all of us to become aware of how our physical and verbal or non-verbal behavior impacts others, especially those who spend the most time in our environment.
Non-verbal communication can often cause one individual in a relationship to become upset if they are seeing or interpreting non-verbal actions by their partner as being rejecting or disinterested. Often times, before a relationship breaks up we can have an idea that the relationship is in trouble by the lack of eye contact, or verbal communication, or even the way our partner crosses their arms and legs when we are trying to speak to them.
There is a science to non-verbal communication interpretation, as well as a science to understanding the best way to express our feelings, in ways that can result in a positive or negative outcome. The science is directly related to neurological and neurotransmitter connections between thoughts and feelings in the brain and their communication to the muscles and nerves in the rest of our body.
To have a better sense of our own non-verbal communication can really assist us in creating more successful relationships.
- Dr. Georgianna Donadio
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I am sure my emotions always play out on my face, but my thoughts might not always be present--I might be thinking about something that happened last week or 50 years ago.
All I want is for people around me to treat me kindly and give me the benefit of the doubt. That is how I try to treat others.
It's always best for BOTH people to CHECK IT OUT. Stephen Covey's 5th Habit (7 Habits of Highly Effective People) says "seek first to understand, then to be understood."
Any time we assign meaning to non-verbals, we are assuming (& we all know what happens when we ass-u-me) something that may or may not be accurate, regardless of the meaning experts assign to certain non-verbals - nothing is 100% one way or the other.
It always takes two to communicate. That's why it's best to CHECK IT OUT.