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Why People Steal: The Many Faces of the Shoplifter
Posted in Kleptomania by Cyndi Sarnoff-Ross on Jul 12, 2011
In her new book The Steal: A Cultural History of Shoplifting, Rachel Shteir details the history and specifics about the propensity certain people have towards stealing. This habit is often viewed as primarily a woman’s crime and even a bit glamorized by the media attention given to young female celebrities (think: Lindsey Lohan) but this is not the reality. In fact, women and men actually shop lift at the same rate with men edging slightly ahead.

People tend to steal things they want, not necessarily things they need. In terms of what people actually steal the gender division is fairly clear. Men tend to steal items such as small electronics and women are more drawn to cosmetic and clothing items in general.
There are also different types of shoplifters which include the amateurs, or individuals, stealing for their own reasons, and the professional shoplifters engaging in what is called organized retail theft. The professionals tend to travel in packs and will resell the goods they steal. So in essence stealing is their business.

There are a number of things that lead people to take things that don’t belong to them. Some are compelled by a feeling of emptiness and describe the act as a way to fill the void. Others are responding to an overwhelming impulse ad not unlike other impulse control disorders, have not learned to manage these feelings. These individuals will recount the intense build up of stress just prior to the theft and that stress is then released by the act itself. There are also those individuals for whom the need for instant gratification is an addiction in and of itself.

Why people stop shoplifting, if they do chose to stop, also varies widely. Some simply have been caught or fear being caught so much so that the cost outweighs the benefit. Others will talk about Karma, or the belief that what you put out into the world will ultimately come back to you, as motivating them to cease stealing. While others will have a moral awakening which may be the result of getting older and having a better understanding of right from wrong. Those that are addicted to the process may only stop once they have received treatment for the underlying mental health issues that cause the behavior.

If you are someone who has shoplifted in the past or has been exposed to shoplifting at some level then what are your reasons for taking something that doesn’t belong to you and if you have stopped doing so, why?

Here are a couple of resources for those who feel powerless over their impulse to steal and want to do something about it:

Shoplifting Prevention
Kleptomaniacs Anonymous

- Cyndi


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I had a friend when I was 13 yo who stole once in awhile becuz she not supposed to ask for anything -- parents only provided what was NEEDED.

I will never understand why ppl have SO MANY KIDS. This friend was NEVER given money for school lunch, she had to take it from home, never was allowed to go out especially if it required too much money, she was able to go to (1) football game during the high school days.

We loved M&M candy so she plotted this. I did not feel one bit confortable doing this but I wanted to be her friend.

After stealing, I felt awful. It wasn't right. I took something that belonged to someone else. I didn't have to steal. Shortly after that, my Instrument got stolen at school. This was the first & last time that I stole anything.
By energylost  Jul 15, 2011
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Madbookwork, YIKES.

I think any 5 yo would have done the same. too bad there wasn't a friend, neighbor or relative that could have GIVEN you 5 CENTS.

I'm glad that you could resume skating again.
By energylost  Jul 15, 2011
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Addendum about the skate key heist: I was 5 years old at the time.
By madbookworm  Jul 13, 2011
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I remember the first time I stole. It was a skate key. They attached skates to your shoes. I was always very careful about putting my skate key away, but one day it disappeared. I tore the garage apart looking for it. Skate keys were 5 cents at the store near us. I would beg my mother for a new key, reminding her that my old one was lost. She always told me to put the key back and "look harder." I don't know how long this went on, but it seemed like forever. I had no allowance, was not allowed to do jobs for money, and had no way to provide a key for myself. So one day, I just took a key from the bin and slid it into my pocket. I knew it was wrong, but I had tried every legitimate way I could think of. I was so happy to start skating again!!! I never regretted it, and was never caught. Nor was I tempted to take up a life of felony after that.
By madbookworm  Jul 13, 2011
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I used to steal a LOT. I've been arrested for shoplifting 4x. I guess maybe some subconcious part of me wanted to rebell against my parents or something but mostly I just wanted stuff. Me & my friend would go & fill up our purses with clothes & kinda compete to see who could get more. I'm shaking my head right now at how stupid I was. I would never, ever, EVER steal anything again. And my little brother is actually who introduced me to shoplifting when we were kids. We would steal candy back then & we got caught once but just kept on doin it.
By justKate  Jul 13, 2011
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