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Dr. Kimberly Dennis is the Medical Director at Timberline Knolls Residential Treatment Center. She maintains a holistic perspective in the practice of psychiatry, incorporating biological, psycho-social and spiritual approaches…
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My daughter is a meth addict and it's hurting me and her child.
Posted in Meth Addiction ... by Dr. Kimberly Dennis on Aug 04, 2010
"My daughter, 20, has been using meth. I don't know details but I know she hasn't been okay for a year or so. Things have recently spiraled downhill... she lost her job, apartment, car, furniture, etc.

She has a 3 year old who I have had for the last month due to her homelessness, drug use, and her inability to provide safety and basic needs. She finally agreed to come to the town where I live and stay in a hotel for a week so she can see her daughter. My plan was that at the end of the week she either go to rehab or she go back to the city without her daughter. It has been a nightmare since she got here and I just don't know how to handle this. She is screaming at me and knocking things around the motel room one minute and crying that no one loves her and she needs her mom and begging me to hold her the next.

I don't know if it is safe for her to be alone, to have her daughter there alone, and I just don't know what to do. She says she hasn't used since being here... 3 days ago... and wants to quit but she refuses to consider rehab. She is eating high sugar foods and refuses to see she needs nutrition.

Please tell me what I need to do and whether she is safe to detox like this. She told me she is afraid she will "fall back" because she feels so hopeless and lonely and that she can't stay in the motel room alone. I almost called 911 and had the police take her to the hospital for a psych assessment one night because it was so bad and last night I stayed in her room. She has what appear to be muscle spasms in various parts of her body while she is sleeping and her respiration and pulse are much faster than mine. Is she safe? Please help."



Your life doesn’t have to be this difficult or scary. I do support you in calling 911 and having the police take your daughter to the ER for a psychiatric assessment. It would be an act of love. Your daughter is very ill, and you and your grandchild are affected as well. It sounds like you are very concerned about her wellbeing and safety, that of your granddaughter and hopefully even that of yourself.

Meth withdrawal is very uncomfortable, but not fatal (like alcohol or benzodiazepine withdrawal can be). I really encourage you to attend meetings of Naranon (a mutual support group for family members and friends of addicts) and/or Families Anonymous. Got to meetings, get support, get a sponsor and work the steps. It’s the best thing you can do for your daughter, granddaughter and self!

- Dr. Kimberly Dennis



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I come from a long line of family drug abusers. My mother (fully recovered years ago), father, sisters, ect! I am a strong believer in calling the cops or somebody for help. For a Meth user..quitting the drug is the scariest part for them. She will continue to lie about whether or not she is using and eventually will probably start stealing from you and family to support her habbit. If the birth of her child was not enough to help get her clean then she definitely needs rehab! YOU are only ONE person! You need to focus your love on your grandchild and get your daughter professional help...unfortunately this is when tough love comes in to play. My mother had to do it for my sister and cops DID find drugs on her. However, they did not send her to jail! They saw her as a user and someone who needed help! Not a criminal! That day she was taken to a rehab facility where she got the help that was needed...I truly hope that everything works out for you!
By Rachel1236  Aug 05, 2010
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"As for calling 911 - that is just plain dumb. Imagine - the paramedics and cops come. She is holding. Now she isn't getting help - she is in jail. Nice move!

You aren't naive enough to think she will get help if she goes to jail, are you?"

Wow, do you think you could be anymore sarcastic and insulting? This is a terrified mother and grandmother searching for answers for the right thing to do; DESPERATE for help. Lighten up already.

I would like to say that the child should definitely not be left alone with her mother for any amount of time. She probably shouldn't even be around her mother WITH you. She is having to see a side of her mom that is scary and frightening to adults.

She definitely needs professional help, or at the very least someone who has been through what she is going through, someone who understands what she's going through, and can stand by her and lead her through it.
By GMaWilli  Aug 05, 2010
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We always seem to disagree. Crashing is difficult but usual. She will be nuts for three or four days.

Tell her to straighten up before she comes to visit next time.

As for calling 911 - that is just plain dumb. Imagine - the paramedics and cops come. She is holding. Now she isn't getting help - she is in jail. Nice move!

You aren't naive enough to think she will get help if she goes to jail, are you?

Have a look at the "Recovery without 12 step" board. There are some good alternatives. Just give her the information and don't preach. Otherwise you will slow down the process.
By LoganAlaska  Aug 05, 2010
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